GDay All...

Well i think that most of the reply's here will be from Maried people since they already made the choice about "The One"!!!

All i want to know is: How did you know that that person was the one???

And please don't come with that you'll just know stuff , there had to be something that sold it!!!

The reason i'm asking is that i've Really Loved 3 people in my live! People that i could see myself with in 20year with a family & all the stuff that comes with it & all those realionship went to Hell in a Huge Fire Ball, due to Fighting & Sh1t!! Thus i believe that "Love Is Not Enough To Keep a Relationship Running" am i wrong???

So i guess part 2 is: What made you decide that this person was worth all the Sh1T...

Have a FAB Day...

how i knew she was the right one?

she could swallow a banana whole

The oracle told me

I don't think that there is just one "The One". Otherwise what would happen when "The One" was no longer here. There would be no other??
I think the person that you make "The One" should be the person who is your best friend.
I don't believe in the "butterflies" & "he/she makes me giddy" theory. That unfortunately doesn't last.

WHAHAHAHA AHEM come on guys this isn't funny he's prob serious here!



Based on what you said you are going to land youself in very deep shyte if the person you cheat on decide's that they want you for themselves! Bad KARMA!

IT's the way of life. How you spend your time with the girl/"The One" should not be a effort! generally you decide who is best suited for you, either in the areas of your interest or decide how she can best impove you as a person. I know of families that get married because they had excellent karma for making money, best of life, etc. LOVE doesn't play a big role when marriage is concerned, it's your ability to cope with that person, the ability to help each other and the ability to grow together as one!

I agree 100% with you on this one. I was once told that love is when you would die for that person.

Best advice i can give is not to hold yourself back. Don't go looking for "the one", because you will be so busy searching that you might actually miss opportunities. One thing you can ask youself is: "Do i see myself with this person in afew years?". I also had to ask myself the same question awhile back, and it is not easy.

I wish the Matrix would talk to me

Thanx for some of the reply's it really makes sence what you say, a bit to late but Thanx anyway, will help me next time round

My problem was i was with a girl that was 80% what i wanted in a girl that i want to marry one day! Then i met a Girl that was 100% what i wanted my hole life! Personality, Looks, ect...

So i had to choose between should i stick with a pritty good comprimise or should i risk loosing everyting & going for what i want!

Well i went for the risk & what i want... Will let you know what the outcome is as soon as i know!

Good luck with it. Just make sure that you are not going to regret your decision, and remember you not a failure for trying, only for giving up!

Forget about 'the one' or your 'soulmate', these are just sheer bullshit used by the 'new age' kiddies to try and make themselves feel like there is some grand fucking plan in store for them.

There are varying degrees of compatibility, and sometimes you find someone who is VERY compatable and complements you, and othertimes you just get 'eh' people.

I have only really loved one person, and yeah in the heyday sunshine days of the relationship I found the thought of me being with anyone else being absurd.
Now that its all behind me I find the thought of me being with her then or ever again as absolutely absurd.

She wasn't the one and neither was I her soulmate. We were just a couple of kids who grew out of one another.

Very well said indeed ... Ziggy.

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Um yeah, I don't want to sound cynical or anything, but thats a load of bull.

What happens if your 'one' dies before you meet him/her? What if that person lives on the other side of the world? What if that person follows a different religeon to yours and cannot have anything to do with you? Seems youre pretty much screwed and doomed to a life of lonliness in that case.

Harsh.


I'll let you in on a little secret here: People are in your life, not because they have some purpose to enact or enforce upon you, but because it it statistically unlikely that there will be NO people in your life. In other words, things happen because they can, not because they 'were ment to be'.

Glad i'm not the only one that believes in that



If she dies before you meet her she wasn't The One, If she lifes on the other side of the world, today that is no problem with technoligy! I know people that met the person they Love in another country & either imegrated or that person imegrated here! I've also met people that changes religion to be with someone they Love!



I live by there words(since a day almost 18months ago that i made a huge mistake,because i was afraid to risk & it cost me everythin i ever held dear to me): Risk like theres No tomoro, Trust like you've got nothing to loose & Love Like You've Never Been Hurt... (Chinese are clever people) Unfortunatly it's droped me in the K( at )K once or twice in my life, but it's brought me more happy times than sad...

But i do understand what you mean... Not everybody...

Another thing that i supose goes under this is will you give up something close to you to prove to someone how mush they ment / mean to you???

For most of you relgulars that wouldbe something like chatting on PM

My motto: Take me as i am, or piss off. After 25 years there is no way in hell that you will change me. As for giving up PM? What influence does it have on my relationship? Is it negative? Doubt it. Ask yourself that.

You got me wrong, not Change just give up something...

Say you lost someone your The One due to Stupidy... Now you made contact again & you have a way to prove to her that she really ment the world to you, it could mean loosing her again but it could also sway her out of her doubt...

Will you give up something, not change, spill the beans about something to proove it or not?


ANOTHER thing, HOW HARD WOULD YOU FIGHT TO GET IT BACK???

I don't believe in fate!

"Love" is created and nurtered with whomever you choose. What seems like true love at first, is usually just just sexual/ emotional attraction but as time goes by, the fog clears and you see your partner for who she/ he really is... human.

Trust me, that puppy love feeling eventually fades away.

True love is learning to comprimise with each others faults (we all have them). Once you stop listening and talking to each other, the trouble starts

You've Got No Idee How True That Is...

This is Not Puppy Love... I Loved Her When It Was Puppy Love, i call it In Love! I Loved her when she dumbed me(Long Story, she had good reason, not something i did, Surcomstances beyond our control), I Loved Her When We Got Back & I still Love Her After We Broke up again (Me Being Stupid, no not cheating or anything, Comunication Problems, i still Loved Her When We/I Ended It)... It physicaly Hurts me when i think she is with someone els & that all because of me being Stupid...

Our Roads Keep Crossing No Matter How Hard We Try To Avoid It & Everytime they cross both of us realize that all the feeling haven't gone yet...

This time there is just one "problem"... She's got someone that make her Happy & she doen't want to risk that...

I can Respect that! But Eversince we broke up the first time i've had one problem i can't give my hole heart to any other girl & i've tried (trust me i have) to get her out, but there is always a part of my heart that i can't give to any other girl & that keeps getting in the way of any other relationship i've had or most prob gonna have... My hole life sofar has been a search for someone like her... & now there might be the slight's of chances to get her back...

I know you will tell me Get Over Her, Carry On, You're Stupid but god knows I Love Her & I've tried everything to Hate her or just dislike her but i can't find anything... I've even tried Drinking but that just cost me a SH!T load of Money...

She's in the music i listen & i've changed that, the TV shows i watch I've tried not watching TV, The places i go to...

A Friend of her's that know's us both said a couple of day's ago "I don't know what to think of Life Anymore, cause if two people that Love Each Other As Mush As You Too Do Aren't Meant For Each Other Then There I Don't Know Who Is..." Or something Damn Close to That...

SH!T I'm Screw In The Nokker

Ps: We Broke Up ±18months ago & i still feel this way, i've had a 16month relationship with another girl in the meen time but had to break it up cause i realize i couldn't give her my hole heart like se wanted & it was hurting her to much...

You are totally missing the point.

The theory that everyone has a single special persion who was deliberately made for them and who is their soulmate suggests that every single person right down to the 6-9 billion of us on this planet has a 'perfect match' somewhere out there.

Thus, when someone dies (Say as a child or whatnot) it logically follows that somewhere someone has lost their soulmate before ever getting to meet them and is now incapible of ever experiencing love.

Or do people who die young before experiencing love not have 'soul mates'?

Honestly guys, time to stop reading mills and boons and realise the harsh, cruel facts of reality - There is no special somebody custom tailored for you by the great divine. You're just gonna have to put up with someone who farts, picks their nose, likes different food and fights you for the remote control instead.

Ever considered the human factor? Some people make mistakes (like marrying the wrong person). Surely there someone else out there who also lost "the one" for them. Is it not now balanced again? Maybe they can get together.


Anyway i agree with you. There's a certain type of person each of us can get along with. It depends on how much you value that persons unique qualities. There is no such thing as "the one". It is an overrated term overused in todays westernised life. Forget about it, otherwise you will be so busy looking for something that does not exist, that you will miss an opportunity to be with someone you really could be with.

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Statistically speaking, every single person is compatible with 1 in a 100 people. This relates to marriage and life partnership and was researched some years ago by a group of psychologists and statiticians. None of us are Neo and there is no spoon.

I agree. Love starts with friendship & it's friendship that carries you through the hard times. Don't get me wrong on this. I don't mean friendship like your ordinary pal it much BIGGER than that.

Yah well I don't buy any of that balance or fate stuff, the point of what I was saying is that the world is too big a place for there to be only one person right for you.

Yeah why have a orgie with only one person when you can have multiple orgies hehehehe...

Ok joking outta the way.

I feel that love is a very define word, what is love exactly? Is it when the person will put up with your shit? Isn't that tolrence level? Is it buying roses for the other person - giving them the world? Isn't that a romantic?

How do you define the right person? My own perceiption is the right person is one which you click with - you can tolrate that persno to the point everything he/she does doesn't affect you. (Bad things that is, other than cheating)

You are the one who is suppose to feel comfortable with the other person and vice versa.

I've seen ppl that get married because they make loads of money together. That' not love is it?

Love is such a broad term!

But, I think that the true, true definition of love – whether it is your partner, mom, dad, friends, whoever – is:
‘someone who will put up with your shit.’

That pretty much sums it up, I think!

Athena’s definition of Love: when someone puts up with your nonsense (within reason, of course).

I agree with Ziggy 100% on this one.....after all, the first few months you have this "stars in they eye make love to me 10 times a day" feeling, then it's gone, then what....

Then you realize you can talk to that person about anything, they would listen, you can fight, laugh, play, do whatever, and it would be fun.....every person likes to be listened to, to be accepted, to be made feel special, needed, wanted....

I travel a lot, and had met many woman that I could converse with, like, if they were a Soulsmate......someone you could talk to, that actually listened with interest....that shared their secrets with you, although knowing you for a very short time only...but feeling that you had known this person for ever.....no, I didn't cheat on my wife, I have all of this with her, and more, but I realize that thdre are other people out there that suits your individual person`lity, that you could learn to love as much as ynur other half....

Life is weird, bud wonderful....

Try this on for size.

Love does not exist!

At least that is my philosophy. I say this because too many of the worlds problems are directly or indirectly related to this superficial idea of love. People kill each other in the name of love. Not to mention doing all kinds of inexplicable things to others as a result of being spurned. As a species we are incapable of love in the true definition of the word. Perhaps a close facsimile of it but not the real thing.

I made a decision a long time ago that I dont need a relationship in my life. I am 29 now and have never had a girlfriend and have turned many away. I get on fine with women in general and in fact have many female friends but not one of them beautiful as they may be have been able to tempt me into doing something against my personality.

Or perhaps this all means that my "THE ONE" died as a baby as Ziggy suggested.

[QUOTE]I made a decision a long time ago that I dont need a relationship in my life

Or perhaps this all means that my "THE ONE" died as a baby as Ziggy suggested[\QUOTE]

Do I detect a little contradiction here.....

Mmmm..interesting...but, then again, you dunno what you deprive yourself of....

Only my view.