About 5 min ago I got the famous "We've grown apart I think it would be better if we were just friends" from my girlfriend. I then send a reply (yes she actually dumped me by sms didnt even call) asking why and generally commenting on the sms like why didnt she call etc..... and i get back "well if you are so pissed off about then you're not the person I thought you were bye". Of course im pissed off we were dating HELLLOOOOOOO (by the way my sms reply was not harsh or mean in anyway she must have been seriously over sensitive!!!!!!)

Sorry guys just had to get it off my chest!
Back to being single *sigh*

It happens to the best of us Areduis.

Hard luck there, Areduis, how long had you been going out?

Bitch, she's spinning the argument to make you look like the unfair arsehole.

END!

It wasnt that serious we were dating for around 2 months. One thing i wont miss is how she used to spin arguments around it was always MY fault!!!! why must wome n be so complicated!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have given up trying to understand women.

I'll tell you one thing though - the old "we've grown apart" is actually woman speak for "I've found some one more interesting"

Also dude, she is going to spin everything you say into something entirely different to try and justify what she's doing. To herself and to you - and trust me on this one, some women have some pretty screwed up ways of thinking.

(I had a gf who tried the same shit with me, luckily I was able to see through her bullshit and see it for exactely what it is - bullshit)

If that is the case (this is a woman - i could be completely wrong), then she isn't worth your time/effort. If you are in the jhb area feel free to come bar hopping with me sometime!

I think though, that if you really care about this girl you should both sit down and talk about what is going on. Listen to her. Tell her your side of the story. Remind her that it takes 2 ppl to make a relationship but only 1 to break it.

If she still doesn't make sense after you talk then maybe ditch it and move on. Don't get me wrong, moving on is a very tough thing to do.

But sometimes things just won't work out and it's best if both people just accept it and go their seperate ways. But you have to talk to each other. It is very important. And by talk i don't mean fight.

See, if you both talk about what is going on, chances are that you can both walk away with clean consciences and there wont be too much animosity between you. It'll make thing easier to deal with.

Hope my thoughts help.

I've given you too options, personally though I would try to talk to her about the situation before making any final decision.

kthxbye

Thanks i appreciate the help. I have given up on her she treated me like shit in the last month of our dating and i accepted we were breaking up a long time before she did it. Yet no matter how ready you are it always shocks and surprises you when you actually get dumped. Yup im in the jhb area and bars sound really good at the moment!!!!!!

good man!!!!

maybe i should organise with the boyz!?!

go to ball breakers, play some pool, drink, scam some chicks...

it'll be awesome!

ha ha!

Shweet nothing softens the blow like a ice cold beer then another one and another one and another one for good luck HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA

A break-up by SMS is unacceptable behaviour. It's very rude and insensitive and clearly displays the lack of respect she has for you. Your only course of action now is to go drink with Rurouni.

I agree!

She didn’t even have the decency to have a normal discussion with you and break it off in person. That really is very, very thoughtless.

Think about it this way – let me tell you the 6 month rule:
Think about the problem now. Is it going to mean as much to you or affect you as much, or even at all, in 6 months time? If the answer is ‘no’, then try not to worry about it now.

Go out drinking with the boys!

Or better yet - go out drinking with the girls ! Eh-heh.

If she begins with the we must just be friends thing, she will always create a pause for you to respond

if this is the case, tell her, well i've been meaning to have this chat for some time now, and to be hoenst i think you are right. I met this girl and she tells me you dont understand me properly. I think this is cause of lack of communication, as evidenced my us both breaking up together. This friend said you would, she is so right. Im glad we got this out of the way. She was so right.

and leave it at that. See who is the one crying then. beyatches

OK, I have decided that the PM boyz(and ladies of course) must all get 2gether for a social sometime!

How does Wednesday 17 Dec sound to ya'all?

Lemme know!

RurouniKenshin:

There is a 3 page discussion on doing just that here:

Click me and come

Have fun chaps!!

Thanks for the support guys, its amazing when you break up what shit comes out.
Thats the last time I date a girl 4 years younger than me. What was I thinking!!!!
Life can be a REAL bitch!!!!
I cant go drinking on wednesday as i working thursday and wednesday

Hmmm, sorry buddy!

So whats wrong with da week end?

We might be having a LAN on Saturday, then some of da ppl will be watching the first two LOTR movies to refresh their memories in time for our... prebooked tickets on thursday next week.

U can join in there?

Sympathies, friend.
Maybe she got someone else to turn another dial. Women are so complicated.
This kinda sums up the differences between men and women:

now that is some funny shit!

*downloads pic

That is funny shit and so true woman are so fucking complicated!!!!!