Hi guys,new to this forum. Need some advice. I've been living with my ungrateful flatmate for 4 years. She pays frik all rent and no bills as shes family. My parents own it. We don't talk anymore as were very different and neither of us are happy with the situation. I've cum to the point where i'm thinking of moving out myself as i can't ask her because it will cause a family feud and stress my parents out big time. She complains about me and the apartment to her mother which makes me so angry after everything we've done for her. Shes got really messy and lazy in the last few months which is really bugging me. I think shes depressed but i really dont care as she doesnt give a toss about me. She has saved so much money from this but shows no appreciation. I know im being taken for a mug but i find it really hard to confront people and if i do il look like the bitch. Ive come to the point where i hate her. I think i'l just admit defeat and mover n with my boyfriend:(

Any advice welcome

Hmm... Perhaps you and Fruitloop can exchange some stories...

Ja, psychology 101 states that anger leads to hate, and the more u are angry at this person, the more you will hate.

Seeing as how you do not want to confront this indolent person, your best option would be to move out of the place then.

If this is the whole story it really doesn't seem that way to me... You're keeping the peace and she's promoting family fued...
youre the "adult" in the situation.

And lets be honest, home is the place where you feel most comfortable. (or in most cases anyways). you seem to feel that way about your boyfriend's place, since you're there as much as possible, so i guess its already you're home.

At the End of the day family is family... big ups to you :-) if you decide to move out without saying a word....

I'd kick her sorry ass out.

Family or no family. Sharing an apartment is a partnership as such and both people have to pull their own weight.

That means cleaning up after themselves, washing their dishes, doing their laundry and keeping the place clean for the other people in it.

If some one is unwilling to do the basic courtesies then they must pack their shit and get out.

But hey - That's just me.

hehe.

Anger leads to hate, hate leads to the dark side!

what you again juca?

I also have a close family friend who's living at my place... if she was lazy and dirty hell I'll boot her OUT in a heart beat thank god she's clean and like her 20% of the time

but in your case... personally I think it's BS that she's living like they way she does... she's prob complaining and telling her mother that you the lazy sorry ass slob... but hey it could be the other way round... maybe you a rupophobia... and causing her to become depressed.

Have you actually attempted to speak to her? Running away is simply showing that you a coward... maybe 1. You fear about being gay and 2. you scared that your parents look down on you and make you the scape goat. 3. You scared of her 4. she's got something on you that may make you look bad.

It's your place that your parents bought, now unless your parents are not happy about you living there then you have a problem.