I have a crush on a girl, who is a really good Christian. I don't seem to be up to par for her. I dont imagine that I'll get her anytime soon, if ever. I know the kind of guy she likes, and I know people say don't change yourself, but I've tried, and its just to hard. She is a very cool girl. We used to be good friends, then i started to like her, then she liked me, then her parents told her she couldnt date me and stuff, she sitll like me, then it just wore off and she was able to give me reasons why she didn't like me and she basically acted like ti wouldnt happen. She is very nice though, so sometimes i feel like she acts like that just so ill get over her and not be too hurt. Cause she might feel like no matter even if she likes me, she cant be with me... for the time being.
Anyways, the main thing I wanna do, is lose the crush, and keep the friend. I want to stop liking her more than a friend. I'm too worried if i just avoid her that ill lose the friendship. Ive tried thinking, Oh ill just stay friends and keep it in the back of my head that maybe, just maybe someday we can get together. But that doesnt work, cause she's always on my mind and im always thinking of ways that i could try and get her to want me again. But lately it seems like I'll never get her, and im tring to realize that. Its hard to do when i still talk to her and am friends with her. And like i said, it seems obvious that avoidance would help, but I go to school with her, have several classes with her, and it just isnt easy. And i don't evenr eally want to do that like i said, cause i could lose the friendship.
Also, getting another girl at my school.... no. I have no interest in other girls there. I go to a small school, and have tried thinking about other girls as a possibility, and just... no. There isnt alot of them there.
The only outlet i seem to have, is a girl ive known for about 3 or 4 years online. We are very good friends, would for sure be dating if we lived close, but we just cant because she lives 2k miles away. She does intent to come here this summer, but inspite of our age (17), nothing serious can happen for a while.
I feel good when im talking to her, and when i get home from a bad day with the girl at school, i can just call her and i forget about all my problems. But she just isnt there during the day, and the pain is horrible at school when im hanging out with her girl, and i cant have her. This causes me to be jealous alot too, seeing her with being good friends with other guys, thinking "omg she likes them".
Last night was the worst, school dance, i asked her, her parents said no. She went with a really good outgoing Christian. yeah... was horrible the whole night watching them really hit it off. I dont know if anything will ever happen there cause i cant read her, she is just so nice to everyone that i dont know if she is acting the way she does with the guy because she likes them, or just because they are good friends.

Yep, hope u had fun reading that, if u even bothered to read it all, haha. But yeah, i hope u get the situation, its not to easy to explain, or get the details in. Sorry for rambling, and im not gonna go back and read it because i know ill try to add or change things, so sorry for horrible grammar or confusing sentences, and possibly contradicting statements.

Thanks =)

Edit: Also, me liking her more than a friend seems to be a turn off for her. Like a few weeks ago, after she said she didnt like me anymore, and she knew i still did, we kinda didnt talk as much. You know how it is, you dont like somebody, and they like you, so when they come to talk to you, its almost a repelent, you think everything they do is an effort to win you back. But recently i told her, "Im over yah, i just wanna be friends". So in order to stay a good friend, i also cant tell her the truth...

From personal experience, you're screwed. For the time being anyway.

The distance thing so far is the only thing that ever worked for me in a similar situation. Or get a new hobby and really indulge in it.

Hi billy welcome to V9


I must say you pretty screwed in both situation... and ya like Carrots advice, take up some sport/hobbie etc you don't need them to have a good time, just go out more often steer clear of her for a while and STOP thinking about what she does and let her be...

Dude you are young wtf you doing thinking no stop about 1 chick??? personally you should chill and do more partying.

One thing I can definately tell you if you like someone and they don't like you trying to stay friends WILL never happen! It's high time you move past that and maybe your friendship will grow again.

From personal experience, nothing anyone says, will make sense to you while in your current situation.
A while back I was in a very destructive relationship. What I thought would be my wife one day, turned out to be my worse nightmare 11 months down the line.
See this girl as a test. She is in your life to teach you something. You need to focus behind the physical, and read the fine print.
I can garuantee you, that if you stop wanting it so hard, love will find you on its own.
To close, you are not in love just because she is the only girl you know. Go think about it.

Adieu

To be perfectly honest,

I reckon that this relationship is doomed and you will be very hard-pressed to keep even an entry level friendship. You should move on and forget about the old relationship.

Dude, this will not affect you anymore that you let it.

Live and Let Be

Hope you have more happyness with you next relationship

Feel Free to post again if you need more advice

Cheers

Nukes