where are all the ladies?

sure could use some serious help right now, its' too bad there's not more going on in here....

or have I mis-looked at first sight?

Hi twilasue,

welcome to the forum. Please go head and ask for help. We will most definately be here to give you any advice we can.

There are a couple of ladies here just need to post more... I guess there's no topics that catches their attention

Hi twilasue, and welcome to V9.

Go ahead and post, we'll help as best we can.

not trying to play coy, but this is a real serious issue i am going to have to face and am just now (w/in past day or so) realizing is true.

I think i may need a little time to see if I can truly feel comfortable saying what I need so badly to discuss (I am in isolation pretty much) to some other women.

I broke down & finally called my younger sister (she's 30 I'm 44) the other day because I had to get some validation that i wasn't going insane. ya know? my family's not the most supportive.

but if you guys are as you say, that would be great, just give me a day or maybe less, ok? things are so iffy at the moment...

The joy about us is that we don't force you to do anything. Please post when you are ready. Don't feel rushed to do anything, just know we will give you the best advice that we can.

Nice thing about a forum is you will get 3rd party approval/criticism and yet no one will know who you are

/me thinks we need Shi-Shi, Toasted etc to pull in and lend a helping hand!
Lets face it guys, as much as we want to help, chances of us understand what the hell is going on inside a womans head or life, its just beyond us!

But hey, we will give it a bash anyway

What if it is something she wants to know about a man?

Then Im here!

You know alllll about men hey Gitano...

noooooo, I don't want to know anything more about HIM!!!

Pleeeeaaassseee don't tell me one single little more thing about him.

Of course, his favorite tactic is to turn things around and tell me that it's all about me, lol!

no I just need support, an ear and some 'women to women' advice.

I've let myself get into a life of almost total isolation and find myself in a situation I thought would never happen to ME, I mean, not me, I'm way too intelligent to end up in an abusive relationship, right? Silly girl... girl is being used as a very loose description here, heheeee... yeah, that's me just a 'girl' of 44, lol

it's ok though, if they're are no ladies around, I've got some tough decisions to make and I am reaching out (something that is so hard to do) to a couple of people

I do appreciate you all posting. human contact of any kind is so precious, you can never/should never take it for granted.....

if you want an idea of what i'm dealing with take a google at a narcissistic personality disorder, lol

twila

Well I can advise/help/listen if you would like me to twilasue... If you dont want to post it up here on the forum, you can always just send me a pm...

Good one
Shi's the one

Strong like Russia in 1945

How you doing Shi? Hope you better I wanted to send you flowers, well, I tried and failed.

If that's the case then i also hope that you're intelligent enough to get out of that relationship

ya if you are in such a relationship then best bet is to RUN from the hilliebillies! It's not something any one should have to deal/live with!

Put your boot up his butt

Or a knife to his throat......

I'd go with the knife to his throat recommendation, but then, as anyone who knows me in real life will agree, I am biased in that regard.

If you are in an abusive relationship though, you need to leave. If you need help in that regard there are organisations that help and counsel you.

Or of course we could get some of out larger members to come around to your house, help you move out, and make sure he doesn't come near you......

Hi Twila

There are a few ladies roaming the site, post when it's necessary.

Abusive relationship with a narcisisstic personality? Sorry to hear about that, know that it's a tough road that's only gonna get tougher... I'm also here if you want to PM me. I had a friend with a similar problem, I'll be available to listen if you need it.

As for advice, only you will know when you're strong enough and ready to leave. That's a process that needs working up to. I think its important to recognise that abuse is a decision made by an abuser. It's no fault or shortcoming of yours that led you here. But you do have the power to stop it. And you have the right to be treated with respect, love and affection.

Sorry if I'm crossing any lines. Just my 2c.

Candy

Twila, the good news is you can get out and rediscover your self-worth.

Don't wait for things to get worse.

Check your local directory for assistance.

Keep us updated on your progress