So, as a guy, do you feel that you should always earn more money than your girlfriend/wife, or does it not really matter to you.

And as a gal, do you feel that your man should always earn more money than you do?

Maybe you should make this into a Poll? You can have 2 seperate polls. 1 for ladies, and one for men?

That be a good idea... Now, correct me if I am wrong, but shouldn't there be an option to add a poll to the topic, cause I don't see it.

In your first Post proceed as follows

1. Click Edit.
2. Choose Full Edit.
3. Click the "Click here to manage this topic's poll" link.
4. Make your poll.
5. Click Submit modified post.

Thanks, cyfer... Don't I feel like the n00b now.

Something is wrong here. I had to pick an option on both the polls...

My feminine side agreed with me tho.

I think that when a couple have kids, the woman shouldn't work. Rather stay
home and spend time with the kids. If the woman was earning more money than the man, your combined income would drop considerably, changing your lifestyle a lot...

And of course, more importantly, the fact that my ego will be bruised.

kthxbye

I said: maybe
It really depends on your partner...

A lot of people choose to persue careers which pay well and which they might not necessarily enjoy...
Other people choose careers which might not pay well but which they know they'll enjoy.

I personally dont think a pay check should be a big issue in any relationship.
You're both building a life together and doing the best you can. But then money does
make the world go round... So to speak. It depends on the individuals... Old traditions still play a big part in the modern day. Perhaps more for some people than others.

If you look at the situation from another angle though and take money out of the picture, the person that earns more and chose their career for that reason, might be jealous of the enjoyment and reward the other gets from their work...



You do have a point there Fat Boy... Suppose it depends on wheather or not she can work from home tho!...

In the old days, almost any man would earn enough to support a family and a stay-at-home mother.

Then some chick decided she wanted to work.

Pretty soon society changed and now it takes two to bring home the equivalent income to support a family.

It is fine for the rich, just the low-to-middle income that struggle

...and more broken families plus a more dysfunctional society

...just look around you.

For me it would aslo come down to a bruised ego, so I voted no. Being outearned by a couple of hundred would be on thing, but by a few thousand, that would eat me up.

I have seen quite a few relationships go downhill because a woman earned more than her man.

I honestly don't see why people care, your paycheck at the end of the month doesn't justify the importance of you or your job. (Think about doctors or non-profit organizations.)

In my case, I'm earning sweet fuck all ATM but my job is awesome, and eventually I'll earn decent cash which will make all this slavery worth it eventually. Besides, I don't think I could do anything else after seeing how much I'm challenged right now.

If my better half earns more than me, who cares? I'm happy, she's happy (hopefully), and we have enough cash to live comfortably.

A wise mentor once told me, "Don't chase the money"

Personally I don't see any problem with my gf earning more than me! Hell I'll be happy that she can help pay the way for things around the house... This way I know she's not marrying me for my money

If I was married I would be happy any income the wife brings in! Helps pay for things you know.

the sooner I find a woman who earns more than me the better, whats the big deal anyway ?

What Fishy said

I still think the whole two bread-winner scenario is just a rip-off simply cos the corporates have not grown salaries to match the double-income scenario but yeah...who would complain about having a sugar-mommy?

qft

I want a sugar mommie !

I agree, in my previous relationship, alot of issues revolved around money.
Inevitably the relationship was a total disaster. Not just because of money, but it played a big part.

I want a woman that is filthy rich. Then I can stay at home and look after the kids.

Adieu

A wiser man (pre crazy phase) once said: "SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!!"

I would love to find a woman that earns more than me

I spend a small fortune on wining and dining, partying etc.

It would actually be quite a nice change to find someone that pays occasionally.

I wouldn't waste too much time on a woman who expected me to pay for all of the entertainment.


Fo' damn sure!

what is the big deal if you earn more than a man does? and i really dont get why a guy would feel like his ego is bruised if a woman earns more than he does...

i believe in an equal partnership, equal treatment between a man and wife, especially when it comes to money.. this is my plan for my future husband, whosoever he might be:

we both contribute 40% of our salaries to a joint account, this joint account will be used to pay for expenses such as the bond, water, electricity, food, insurance etc etc...
the rest of the money, the 60%, is yours to enjoy and to do with whatever he pleases..

in that way, we both contribute regardless of our salaries, we both put in an equal percentage share of our salary..

and when it comes to dating, the same applies... if bf buys lunch today, i will buy lunch tomorrow.. and so forth and so forth.... and if he insists on paying for lunch, then i will insist on at least paying for petrol or something... especially if we going to a place that is more than an hour or so drive...

at the end of the day, if you jealous because your spouse has achieved a level of professionalism (hence deserving higher pay), then really now how can you call yourself a good man if you are resentful that your partner achieve success at work...

and the comment about women that should be at home when they have kids.... oooh... please! dont get me started...

Good point Shi-shi!
Completely agree.... Doubt you'd really have your partner's best interests at heart if you resent their success. And that isn't a healthy relationship in my opinion



I like that idea
It means both of you are contributing equally and fairly.



Think this one is more of a personal decision not a necessity as was thought in the past. Women have careers now and lives outside of their home environment. As a result, there are nannies and various care centres that have been created to cater to career orientated women who also want a family. If I have kids one day then I have to admit I would like to stay at home until I think they're old enough and more independant. Luckily the career I chose would allow me to But do women that dont have that luxury really have to put their careers and lives on hold to stay at home and look after the kids? If they dont want to, I dont think they should be pressured into it or expected to. But they should also think very carefully about the repercussions of either decision....

I don't think they have to. In fact, if I ever get married and have children. Then my wife can work (if she wants to) and I will stay home, look after the kids and have dinner ready when she comes home.

I like the way u think cyfer...

*evil grin*

Now all i gota do is train my to think like that...

Mwahahaaa!

Shi : want to go out with me?

What about Joanna?

Ce'Nedra, I can help with the training.

gitano: yes

Thanx Cyfer! But I think I got things covered...

Teeheehee!...

lekker. Let me know if I need to him at all though.

Will do!..

The way i see it, there is no matter who earns more, as long as one doesnt get all superior on the other one, i know people like that, its an elderly couple actually, the man was paid off due to an injury he sustained at work, he stuck all his money in starting his own bussiness wich fell flat, his wife earns the big bucks now and she looks down on him because he cant bring in anything.

I am a thread killer arent i, a lot of threads end with a post by me, i greet the scottish lady and she dissapears etc.

Or maybe you should post sooner in the threads.

Maybe everyone just agrees with you so they decide they don't need to reply??

I say NO, women tend (this a generalisation(if you didnt realise)) become bossy when they realise they are worth more $$$ than their man

the answer? Find one who is already worth more than you and then don't let her get off with bossing you around when you start dating.