Now, about 5 months after my previous relationship, I feel ready to move on.
I've seen this girl at the new company where I work. She started here about a month back and I think I have a chance to make it work with her.

I'm scared to put my feelings out there, especially with a girl that works at the same company as me. Seeing that its almost Valentines , should I go for it, or look for someone outside of the workplace ?

Adieu

depends on how closely you work with her.

myself and my ex worked for the same company but different departments and it worked out fine.

If it worked out fine, why are you not together anymore?

^^Ditto

Problem is I think I would go for it but when things turn sour or you are pissed off with each other, rumors spread like wildfire giving you a bad name.

Not sure if I would take the leap in a corporate company like i'm in.

Play it cool and see where it goes

It does pretty much depend on how closely you work together. i.e. If you deal with each other, or rely on the other in the workplace, then it could cause problems (Not saying it will). If you just simply work at the same company, but don't rely on each others departments, then I say go for it.



you don't even have to do anything and rumours fly... Certain people just have friends in this company and then get called the "Investec Player"

I knew someone would ask that.

We split up long after I had left the company.

All I know is I wouldnt want to mingle with the ex at the Friday afternoon beer sessions.

double ditto i agree.. if the shit hits the fan ur screwed. specially when you have to see here everyday if something bad should happen. its all up to u ... people do not usually recommend work place relationships for a lot of reasons... ex. boss/co-worker = bad

Our departments only rely on each other for the technical support. This is a big corporate company, about 3000 employees.
My biggest problem is, this is the place where I meet people, because there are so many. Nowhere else out there, is a place where you can meet this many new people.

I can take a leap of faith, and if I burn then so be it. If I dont, I'll always just wonder. Truthfully, my gut is telling me NO !

Adieu

Then go with you're gut.
{But then again who am I to comment...}

Look give it a try. I've seen quite a number of relationships in companies that do work out.
(My Mother and Chris {You know}, they've now been together almost 15 years now)

First and foremost find out If the company has a sort of unwritten rule about it (Like to keep it to different dept ect.)

LOL @ BaRoN. Tell him to go with his gut (which says no), and then you tell him to go for it.

Normally I go with what my gut says, as it is normally accurate, but then that could just be me.

Hey why not?

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, it always reminds you of things you should have done.

Hindsight is a bastard, you only realise the mistake after you've made it.... Baron think you are talking about foresight

I think he has it right. He is just speaking of Hindsight in a positive manner rather than a negative one. e.gs.

W@RP@T}{: Man that marriage buggered me up.

BaRoN: I should have bought the RS4 instead of the Porsche.

I took the leap, I just could not resist it anymore. When I saw her today, I just melted.
That feeling where time stands still, those few seconds that I saw her today went by in SUPER SLO MO.

We'll see where this goes.

Adieu

What did you say to her?

I'm so shy to approach woman it's scary

Does she work underneath you? If so be careful, things go great for a while, then turn nasty and BOOM you get accused of sexual harrasment

Check your company policy, many say that partners cannot work together at all

There was once a Sexual Harrassment case at my old work, I can tell you that we thought it was funny and it turned very serious very quickly

They have adverts on tv here all the time, "Have you been harassed at work", "Have you been in an accident", "Have you lost money in the stock market", "Have you blah blah blah"

Its crazy, you hear the jokes about being sued for anything here, but its legit. At the shop hey wont even give suggestions on different brands of washing powder in case they get in trouble

Very odd

lol, i guess OMO doesn't make it that far abroad?

I say no - not a good idea. If things don't work out, and the possibility is good that they won't if you see each other every single day all day @ work then are dating as well, then you have a real problem.

Too much togetherness is always a bad thing. Then when you break up, you still have to be around the person every day....or change jobs.

Don't do it...

To update the matter.
This went nowhere. This girl is not interested at all. After a few encounters with her, she is ignoring me completely. I have decided a while back to just drop it. This is not a case of playing hard to get. Maybe she is just not ready for any relationship. At least I tried.
If your gut says NO, just accept it.

Adieu

Well ( at )least you gave it a try

If your gut says yes? Then do you accept it also and go for it?

LOL

That is your choice

LOL, it is always "your choice" but I was referring to his statement.



I always go with what my gut says....

[joke]Normally says I am hungry though [/joke]

:lol

Typical cm - how the hell does he manage to turn everything and anything into a wya to make someone laugh!

Anyone told you that you should be a stand up

I personally don't see any problem with work relationships (the exception being if your President of the world Bank )

I'm attracted to someone where I work and if it werent for the fact that she is with someone and older than me, I would be all over her (not in that way you sick bastards)

Anyway, use your intelligence with things like this. Don't just use your gut, think it through, weigh up the pros and cons and if you really want it then go for it!

nice way to put it cyber

That works for practically any scenario you would happen to come across