Ok so say there is this guy that you like and he has shown interest and you can tell that he really likes you too... and now his avoiding you, not really talking and stuff, yes his busy but not that busy (in my opinion)... And his completely pulled back in every way...

Do you?

A. Get over it, move on, there is plenty of fish in the sea.
B. Wait things out a bit.
C. Hook up with someone else who is showing keen interest.

D. Non of the above...

why? 1 I don't do guys


but if I had to choose I'd go 1

from a guy's point of view, maybe find out before making your mind up.

sometimes a guy can send mixed signals when they dont know what to do. Especially when a guy is sitting on the fence and needs a nudge.

I will give you a personal example.

I know there's a girl thats interested in me and I of her, we have a bit of a history, but recently I have honestly been too busy to pursue something which might not materialize, not knowing where I actually stand as she has never actually made it clear and I found myself in the friends zone. I was also very open with her with a few very personal things but then found that she couldnt or wouldn't reciprocate properly.

Not withstanding the fact that I am moving at the end of the month, have personal business to clear up as well as trying to fit back into the corporate enviroenment.

All these things have caused me to neglect her slightly. and its not that I want to, its just circumstantial. I suppose I could make more of an effort, however, that might be wasted effort as i said I am not quite sure where I stand.
and putting effort into something with no guarantees might be a waste of time for both us, much like playing the numbers to yesterday's lottery tomorrow.

If she gave me a very positive nudge in the right direction, I'd more than likely run with it.

So you see, the above could very well be a similar situation in which your man finds himself.

I think the best thing for you to do would be to actually go to him, let him know what your intentions are, and ask him straightout what the deal is.

He might give you some insight that you never had. Or maybe your being totally open and honest with him might just give him that little nudge.

Suppose it depends how much you like him...

Is he worth confronting and asking wtf is going on

I have asked him about it before and he gave his reason which I accepted and appreciated. That reason is now kinda gone you know.. but yeah anyway.. men.... cant live with them, cant live without them

Shi-Shi I can't tell you what to do on this one, I sound like that guy maybe, thing is i'm so shy I think I give off the wrong signals when I might actually really like the girl, after we are comfortable together I go full on. and they run away hahahahaha

Does he know you are single, available and willing to get to know him better?

I have noticed this type behaviour when someone thinks that you are already involved with someone or not interested in a relationship for what ever reason, they distance themselves, to not fuckup your current relationship and maybe to get over the feelings they have, or it could judt be that they got scared off.

Right. I am with rush on this one. You got to be straight forward with the guy. Tell him that you have feelings and that you would like to pursue things. Ask him if he is feeling the same way. If not he could be thinking you are just wanting to be friends and even though he wants more, he won't say anything as he respects you and your wishes to be JUST FRIENDS. That is from my personal experience.

aint nothing worse for a guy than thinking you are headed on the highway of love and all of a sardine are forced to make a turn into the friends zone and spend 3 years nurturing a flat tyre.

be straight and honest.

I WANT TO EAT CHOCOLATE COATED GRASSHOPPERS OFF YOUR NAKED BOD!

he'll get the hint

Agreed again. Honesty is the way to go. Us men are sometimes VERY slow and don't pic up on these subtle hints. Specially if they the same hints that you were giving a while ago, but those were just friend hints.... :confused:

lol thats actually true

i want things spelt out for me in case I get it wrong and make an ass of myself.

Nothing worse than heading in for a kiss when she's actually closing her eyes in disgust.

LOL - You must watch the movie Just Friends... There is a scene that is like that. haha and the dude ends up shaking the lady.

I think chicks thinks tooooo much... just come out and say it... but then again he might be the type of: "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS!" so it might become awkward if things go sour

Some chicks do not even think of doing that for fear of losing their "backup plan".

he definitely knows all that and he knows i like him, trust me there is no doubt, if there is, then his blind



how am i supposed to say it when he avoids me all the time?

he said he would come to me with it once his ready... so i guess since he hasnt said anything yet, it means his not really interested or not ready to at this point.. so yeah

Why do girls send mixed signals?

If they would just come out and say it, the world would be a much better place.

Even if they truly want to be friends and nothing more, I would rather know and accept it than get mixed signals and try in vain for a year!!

i am not sending him mixed signals, he knows what i want and how i feel.... he even has it in writing, to which he never responded to by the way....

you guys are just the pits.. i give up!!

maybe timing is bad?
here is a question for you then, do you really believe that he is worth it?

if he is, then maybe he knows it but timing is bad?

i only get involved in things that i believe are worth my time and energy, but maybe you right... its probably bad timing

I was not saying that YOU are sending him mixed signals.

I was just referring to girls in general and not you shi-shi!

maybe he feels the same way because he doesnt know what you are offering?

We are blind, and that is why I said we need more than little hints.



When did you give it to him in writing? What has happened since then. He might think that your feelings have changed (unless it was recently). It could be he isn't ready, or that timing is bad, but I would still ask him. If he really has feelings for you then he will be honest (and ask him to be), then he will come out and tell you. He will then tell you that timing is bad, or he is not ready.

i think its a personal decision on your part. It depends how bad or how long your willing to wait. Not knowing your personality its hard to say. Do you really like him. If so then go for it. Worst comes to worst there are plenty of other guys out there. So i would say A. That is if your not 100% into him. Do you like him for him or do you like him for another reason? He maybe shy, making excuses. So your other option is to work things out.. talk to him. maybe he will loosen up once you start talking to him. Or you can always go the other root and find some one else.. its really up to you.

He is either scared of a relationship, or its bad timing.

Do you know anything about a previous relationship he might have had ? Maybe he was in a serious relationship and got a steak through the heart.



He is not interrested, period. When a guy likes a girl, and he is presented with any opportunity to get to the girl, he will grab it......

Adieu

a steak to the heart???

Not all men/guys are like that The Saint.

hmmm...... that is kinda true hey?

That is not always the case. Often guys are so scared of failure or worse (rejection) that they fail to even try, even if its the girl of their dreams.

END.

amen

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Shi Shi, Im with cyfer on this.

If you havent gone to him, in plain english, and said 'I dig you, lets hook up', then the chances are that he has recieved ABSOLUTELY NO SIGNALS from you whatsoever. I dont do signals, I am always scared of getting them wrong or I just dont see them, so I ignore them when I see them, if I like someone, I go for it, unless she is hanging back (much like Im sure you are now) and just leave it to see what happens.

Dont expect him to catch even your most obvious signals. Men are blind to signals.

Edit: amen to the above post, rejection has got to be the kakest thing in the world.

amen again, I need proof that a woman is interested. send me a letter. lol.

personally i think if hes not intrested in you hes is blind or some what slow no offense to him.. but without knowing your personality you are beautiful. If he can not see that.. then he is probly not worth your time. It took me all of 2 seconds to realize all of this.

Maybe he's just gay?

lol @ warpath... no his not gay...

i told him in no uncertain terms how i felt blah blah blah....

it doesnt look like its going to work at this point... one or two major obstacles that cannot be overcome at this stage...

but yeah, life goes on

sorry to hear that Shi-Shi

Yeah i'm sorry too... it would have been nice, more than nice to be with him... but reality is reality and i had to face it no matter how difficult.. guess it was a case of being in the wrong place when it was the right time

I believe that everything happens for a reason. We may not understand the reason, or like what has happened at that time, but in time it will all make sense...

Be strong my friend. Remember you have lots of friends.

I am being strong D... thank you. And yes I do have wonderful friends like you.

And as long as I have my work, studies and my 2 cats... this girly can face anything and kick ass doing it!

That's a great outlook Shi-Shit, know exactly how you feel........

I'm crazy about a chick that doesn't seem to know I exist, one of the worst feelings in the world. Been doing ok and then all of a sudden this morning I was sad and down again.

Life is a lesson, so I hope I learn what I need to out of this quickly and the next step in my life shows itself.

Chin up there are people starving to death in this worl, freezing to death and here I am whining because i'm in love.

It could always be worse, so be greatful for what you have and smile each day because you are healthy, normal, good looking and there will always be someone there for you.

It was a typo, I shall give him a talking to later. Some for Shi.

OMW!!!!!!!!

Sorry Shi-Shi

It was a typo...... funny as shit though LOL

Show's I swear too much obviously