Ok... so yea i'm hurt yet again. Been in a relationship (sortof) for almost a year, been up and down on and off never really putting it down as actually being together. Great friends good company, good companionship, everything has been good but from her side she hasn't wanted to actually settle down. She's broken us off a few times and then been with someone else, can't explain the hurt each and every time.

Realised I really love her, she does have feelings for me but is not ready, we agreed to get married in 5 years, have talked about children etc. etc. she says i'm too good for her at the moment.

I have no idea....

So yea we are not together and she is with someone else, like a knife in the back or a nail in my coffin. Problem is I had a shit weekend thinking about her every second. Watched the 6th episode of Lost season 3 last night. The one guy says to the other "a man cannot got without someone in his life, being lonely is the worst thing that can happen to a man. A man will get SICK if he is too lonely"

Totally agreed, I haven't wanted to eat, can't sleep, burn inside all the time. I think to myself I have everything going for me but why do I feel so empty, I don't get joy from anything, things that would usually excite me... just don't, they feel meaningless, life feels meaningless.

All I can say, and i speak from experience, is that things will get easier over time. When I found out my ex cheated on me.. it was so confusing.. I was so mad but i loved him so much. Nothing I did, nowhere I went, was as special or happy as being with him was. I know I didnt eat for 2 days, couldnt sleep.. how could the person I planned on marrying and being with, having kids with.. how could he hurt me so bad... Only now I realise what a blessing being apart from him is...

You say she broke it off a few times and been with someone else and now again with someone else.. warpath.. then she's not worth it. I know it hurts, you still love her, but you are better off. Something you will only realise in a while from now. Be strong, kepe the faith and if you do need someone to talk to, vent to or the anything, drop me a pm ok?

I wish you all the best.

Problem is she also lives next door, I want to be so angry at her, then I see her and my heart melts.

I need to find someone for me

I need her to move out so I can move on. She always thinks about me and misses me when we are apart, always comes running back when I have another owman in my life, I'm such an ass to take her back. I believe we have something special that draws us together, it always will until the feeling of "we have done together what we are meant to" disappears. I can't help but feel what we have is not over, I can't explain it. But I think I need to move on and I know our paths will cross again one day.

Indeed. Better this stuff happens now though, than after you are married, and have lil' kids running around.

She says that she is not good enough for you... Nornally when one partner says this to another, it also could be that there is a lack of love - for oneself. I.e, it is gonna be dofficult for her to love you like you want her to, if she does not fully love herself.

you right Sadist

She thinks she's shit yet I see her for what she is and love her for that. she is the most honest woman I have ever met. I respect that so much. I was cheated on by my ex-wife, lied to constently and now I have her that tells me the truth, good or bad.

I just wish I could stop thinking about her.

It is making me sick.

Yeah, that is the worst part - constantly thinking about someone who has broken your heart. It may be cliched, but in time, you will feel better (as you know from experience as well).

Not to be flippant, but look on the bright side - for every man on this planet, there are like what, 5 women?



Yeah, that is the worst part - constantly thinking about someone who has broken your heart. It may be cliched, but in time, you will feel better (as you know from experience as well).

Not to be flippant, but look on the bright side - for every man on this planet, there are like what, 5 women?

OMG! Darryl SLAP Rob to for me please! and here I thought you would learn from past mistakes!

Come on Rob she's not worth your time... are you even sure she's telling you the truth? How can you accept someone who wants other people instead of you? She's controlling you like a puppet, if you ask me from what you said she sounds manipulative and controlling... she wants to have fun with other people, yet when you find someone else she breaks that by "running back" to you... wtf?

Well it's not going to happen this time. Ron, send your sis this way you know i'll be good to her

well it's been about 2 weeks+ now and i'm ready to move on, start fresh and look to the sky again.

It's still on my mind but as you say time makes it go away, need to find someone to care for, love and be there for to totally refocus my mind, people might say it's rebound time but I don't believe in rebound anymore. Going to find someone who is right for me (hopefully) not just someone to fill her place.

Damn, you're luck hasn't changed Rob

But yeah dude, the cliche of 'plenty fish in the sea' is quite applicable here. And don't put it all on this relationship unless you're completely sure! Besides, you're still young and foolish, plenty other women out there.

Hmm I hope I'm not going to be moving into a shit-storm

LOL no dude, no shitstorm

We will still be good friends, get your ass moving, I need some lan action to take my mind off this stuff LOL

That cliché sucks

Then where are all my fish

Fear not dude, my PC is the first thing I'm moving this weekend

I reckon Warpath and Shi-shi hook up: two birds, one stone

Rust ask your lady if she has any friends for me in fact everyone ask around for me

I'm a 24 year old fat bald dude.

I will ensure she brings around hot friends regularly

Wheres my invite?


Fat is relative. You are not fat. Just not your ideal weight.



Again, wheres my invite??

You have an invite, always

Fish has a lan this weekend, your invited

And what you mean i'm not my ideal weight maybe just not my ideal build.

But I need to know when the lan is.

Trouty wouty didn't invite me. He hates me. When is it?

i'll be hosting a lan at my new place soon
it'll get all our minds off women

Yeah I didn't get an invite from fish either

Can't wait. At this rate I could make 2 lans this year. haha

Saturday he phoned me and asked me to ask you give him a shout if you want to know when.

Cyfer insensitive not worrying about my feelings and only about playing games

wtf? lan wasn't confirmed... it's planned I told Rob to tell you

I care, you just never told me about this, and I can't really offer any other advice at the moment. Didn't exactly have the best weekend myself.

that really suxs she lives next door.. id be pissed.



dido... what a punk she is.. she's like sneaky (ninja)

The best way I've found to get over a girl is to get under another.

Instead of focusing on what you had, think about moving forward. New people, new experences new fun.

Agreed Punk, problem is stuffing around with another one (using them) basically when your heart belongs to another.

My morals keep me from doing plenty things

No, I never said use them.
and you just think that your heart belonged to them,

thats the way punk

Good outlook punk....but it can be very very difficult to move on.

The heart takes a long time to heal - In some extreme cases it never does.

and for goodness sake keep trying.

you will never win the lottery if you dont buy a ticket

Not intending on giving up now all these bad experiences....... a good one has to come along. Problem is that this experience was worth every second of the pain and if given the chance, I'd do it all over again.

Do you have any idea what the odds of winning the lottery are?

like 13 billion or something to 1

There is still a chance though

/me thinks warpath has some issues... seek out consul! Rust fix him up!

Warpath: dude, I know you have been through I serious fuckload, but one thing, from my little small, immature, inexperienced point of view, don't put too much pressure on a relationship being 'the one' when you do find someone else. I mean you have a fuckload of time left, no point in screwing one up because you were too hectic about it being serious, I mean my dad got married for the first time when he was 38, my mom and him are still together and very much in love.

regardless of the odds, its not always the winning, but maintaining the hope of winning that helps you carry on.