Hi

Let me start with some background first. Last weekend i went to lan at one of my firends in pretoria.

That saturday his sister's old friend came over, who's studying in hotel in parlaborwa. She was staying till sunday to catch her bus back home someware in pual roux.

My other friend that when't with me to the lan started flirting with her like he does with every chic. She didnt really respond to him. I wasnt really flirting with her i just made a few jokes about her. A bit later we all jumped in the jucuzzy, as time when't by she started flirting with me and came to sit next to me in the jucuzzy.

At like 3am everyone when't to bed except me, the chic, my friend saying in pretoria and a other friend of him. I showed him (the other friend) a few things on my pc. Meanwhilst the chic came and set next to me, with the pretoria friend sleeping on her lap (he's 14 btw). As the night when't on we started holding hands and caressing each other.

Then at like 7 am the pretoria friends mother comes in calling the chic to get ready for her bus, she jumps up not to be seen laying on me. After she packed her things she stood in the hallway, i came up to her asked what time she's leaving. Then we started holding hands and made out a bit.

I when't with the friend's parents to drop her at the bus. While in the car we secretly hold hands, i take her number and gives her mine.

After we leave she sms's me "sorry, but goodbye is not my strong point, it may look so but you dont see me now. thanks for just being you. keep it between us please. see you the 8th?"

Now i dont know what to do. It does seem like she likes me alot but the only time i will see her again is on the 8th when she stays at my friends house for one night again, before going back to study in parlaborwa.

Is it worth it trying to make something out of this?

Unless she has a VERY good reason for saying this.



then I would say no it isn't worth making something of it. Why doesn't she want you to tell people that you are an "item"???

She wants a quickie...or jus a little affair.
Either way if its itching its bitching.

Sounds to me like she has a boyfriend (of wich other people know) thus: she doesnt want feel like a whore (people knowing she has 2 boyfriends.

'Secret relationship' crap like that is never worth it. She's quite happy to be with you when no one else is around, but I doubt you'll ever make it work if she can't be seen with you in public.

Be a bastard and have a fling/one night stand, or man up and just walk away if you don't want to feel like a whore afterwards. Go find someone that likes YOU.

BTW out of interest, how old are you and this girl?

I'd say no, simply because long distance relationships never ever ever work

It's fine and all but don't put your whole heart in it and get too attached, would be a huge mistake

like blackrazor said if it's itching it's biaching! take it as it goes as for making anything out of it rather stick to just "being friends" DON'T PUT ALL YOUR EFFORT into this unless there is light at the end of the tunnel.

and make sure that the light is at the end of the tunnel and not a train coming towards you.

Warpath, I agree completely

Listen to these guys man. Unless you are only after someone who you can 'get with' occasionally, she probably wont be worth the effort. Esspecially since she doesn't want anyone to know about it.

Check I have to eat my words because of some strange development.... But yah, we dont pretend to understand chicks, what they want or how they work, but we try.
Good luck. If you are looking for a relationship, I would advise finding a girl that would be proud to be with you, if you know what I mean? Like if you are together and her friends ask, she doesn't go 'um, yeah, kinda' she needs to have a fat smile on her face and say 'yes' while holdin your hand. Then it has a small chance of succeeding. I say small, because when is there ever a big chance?

I agree with everyone else, I don't think it's worth trying to make something work. Long distance relationships can work, but in a situation like that I don't think there's a good chance of it working out too well.



The "keep it between us please" part also makes me think she probably has a boyfriend somewhere, maybe where she is studying, and although she likes you, she see's him more often so doesn't want to make any big changes.

I would say still talk to her, have fun with her when she visits your friend, but don't try and make a relationship out of it. Althought that can sometimes be very hard.

Closed this thread as the person who started it hasn't said anything since the original post, and I am sure he has either moved on, or is dating her.