Vault9 Forums > She broke my heart

John Cooper

Feb 16 2006, 11:37 PM

[i]Well, my gf broke my heart... it was on the 14th February! - she came early that morning and we had a good time together at my apartment, she had to do some things in the computer and worked for some time... I started to clean up my apartment... at around noon I sat next to her and brought her some fruit... everything was fine then... the time she left we agreed to meet late at night (9pm) to go for a cup of coffee or smth like that, at night I called her and asked her to meet a bit later, at around 9:30pm... she got angry and said nothing but good bye..... ain't that silly?! - the next day she broke up with me.... I asked her for a single reason and she started talking about things that had happened months and months before.. and said that the 14th was such an important date... so she decided to do that.... can you believe it? - I love her... and don't know what to do now.... I wrote her a mail and she answered it, saying she feels sorry about it.... but I don't know what to believe, it's the third time.... we had been going out for a year and 6 months..
thanks for your help.

Fishfly

Feb 17 2006, 12:53 AM

Hi John Cooper, just a question, what exactly did you do that was so bad? which she couldn't get over/leave alone?

I've given up on trying to understand women... they seriously come up with F#^@ excuse to tell you they don't want you anymore...

Heir_of_Isildur

Feb 17 2006, 01:26 AM

Yeah, that's quite a classic... the ladies love flogging dead horses. Guys are quite different, we'll argue about today's issues, but every argument you have with a GF is about ALL the arguments before, and ALL the issues in the relationship ever... how can a relationship survive that?

Good Luck John, and I hope you get what you're looking for.

Evernight

Feb 17 2006, 02:31 AM

Essentially she just doesn't want to go out with you. She's bringing up stuff gone by to try and have a reason but she probably just wants to move on.

This is a good oppurtunity for you to cut your losses and find a girl who suits you more...

nCryption

Feb 17 2006, 02:37 AM

kick her to the curb and move on

go hump her best friend and she'll come running back

Carrots

Feb 17 2006, 02:48 AM

If its the third time, its time to move on. Otherwise this will probably just happen again and again and again.

JuCa

Feb 17 2006, 02:51 AM

QUOTE

[i]Well, my gf broke my heart... it was on the 14th February! - she came early that morning and we had a good time together at my apartment, she had to do some things in the computer and worked for some time... I started to clean up my apartment... at around noon I sat next to her and brought her some fruit... everything was fine then... the time she left we agreed to meet late at night (9pm) to go for a cup of coffee or smth like that, at night I called her and asked her to meet a bit later, at around 9:30pm... she got angry and said nothing but good bye..... ain't that silly?! - the next day she broke up with me.... I asked her for a single reason and she started talking about things that had happened months and months before.. and said that the 14th was such an important date... so she decided to do that.... can you believe it? - I love her... and don't know what to do now.... I wrote her a mail and she answered it, saying she feels sorry about it.... but I don't know what to believe, it's the third time.... we had been going out for a year and 6 months.. banned.gif
thanks for your help.

You know what part in all this is where your problem lies? The part where you say, it's the third time. They do it once so what stop them from doing it twice, three time and so on and so on. Even if you got back together with her you must remember that. It happened before with her so what is stopping her this time? I know for someone who is in love it is hard to grasp (believe me, I know) but yeah...

Sucks that she left you on such an important day (she even says it, what logical reasoning is behind this?). It is like getting dumped on your birthday with the reason that it is a special day?

Good luck with everything though, and remember : the V9 members are cheaper than therapy (or smashing someones head in)!

Paul

Feb 17 2006, 03:02 AM

I smell the sweat of another man

Heir_of_Isildur

Feb 17 2006, 03:22 AM

QUOTE(Rush @ Feb 17 2006, 11:02 AM)

I smell the sweat of another man

Yeah, well we weren't talking about sexual orientation here Rush

But maybe you're right...

Carrots

Feb 17 2006, 03:26 AM

I think its BS. It might be the case, but the first thing everyone always thinks is that she is cheating on the guy, or leaving you for someone else.

Whats so hard to believe about someone just wanting out of the relationship because its the right thing to do at the time?

Heir_of_Isildur

Feb 17 2006, 03:52 AM

QUOTE(Carrots @ Feb 17 2006, 11:26 AM)

Whats so hard to believe about someone just wanting out of the relationship because its the right thing to do at the time?

Valentines day is never the right time

And if it was the way she felt, then why couldn't she just say - "I don't want to be with you any more"? Why the mystery?

W@RP@T}{

Feb 17 2006, 04:10 AM

That's so shit.

I've been though worse than this though and in the end of the day it's hard to face but you are prob better off without her.

Find someone else. Best advice I can give.

If she comes running back, remember it's her loss, she was stupid enough to let you go.

Fishfly

Feb 17 2006, 06:40 AM

maybe she used your PC and diverted all your funds to her offshore platform account? Kick her in the groin.... oh wait wrong story...

IMHO if she does it once she's a fool, if she does it twice you the fool but if she does it 3rd time then you just asking for it

rurounikenshin

Feb 18 2006, 08:18 AM

Sounds to me like she planned to break up with this dude on Valentines day.

Best advise I can give - Tell her to fuck off!

My ex fiance has been trying to "get back together" since she came back from her 1 year stint in Cape Town - where she was trying to prove something...

What did I tell her?

You guessed it! FUCK OFF!

And this is after 8 years and an engagement. But the reason is simple. Once is enough thank you. Time to move on!

Vandalias

Feb 18 2006, 07:26 PM

thanks, I know I have to move on... although it is quite hard... this morning I opened a mail from hers, she wrote: " THANKS FOR ALL... GOOD BYE " wtf!

... but believe me, all your words helped me a lot guys, thanks a lot!! really....

nCryption: maybe I'll do hump her best friend yeah...
but will not be back again... period.

Fishfly

Feb 22 2006, 07:09 AM

hmmm "Thanks for all"? did you transfer your house/car, etc to her name... that sounds fishy you better check your accounts etc

W@RP@T}{

Feb 22 2006, 08:28 AM

Fish you are too paranoid, all bitches dun just leave and try steal you moolah.

Mine did........

hmmmm maybe your right Fish

J

Mar 6 2006, 03:06 AM

Febuary the 14th, she hasnt got an exscuse for the way she acted, u shudn beat urself up about it, afterall its just anohter day, what was the reason for u wanting to be a bit l8er at half 9? It seems like she is guilty of something, if she is bringing things up from months ago its because she has no real reason for the way she is acting, maybe she is insecure, best thing to do is talk to her, i no its not that helpful but me and my girl been togehter for two years and a bit, weve been through a lot, nothing is impossible, trust me! have u spoke to her? if so what she have to say?

someoneelse

Mar 19 2006, 12:27 PM

I'm being dragged in and out of the same situation... there's nothing you can do but move on with life.

Fishfly

Mar 20 2006, 02:04 AM

shame SOE is fruity not being kind?