Im sure many of you out there will have experienced exactly the same thing.

When in a realtionship, it often seems a whole lot easier to say how you feel, what you are thinking etc, over SMS. Correct?

I hate it, but damn its true.
What do you guys think about it?

Today I intentianally went to visit my girlfriend to talk a few things over because I knew that if I didnt get off my ass I would resort to SMS's, which I think is the cowards way out.

Why do sms's give us a feeling of anonymity, when we know they know who its coming from?

I think it because it is easier to write your thoughts down and express them in writing, rather than actually telling the person. When you are confronted by the person you become "scared" of what they may say or think or do. It could also be that you find it easier to "hurt" them in writing than in front of them. Why is it so easy to tell a person you love them in person, but when you want to discuss issues it is so much harder? anyways I hope I get my point across as I am in a bit of a hurry at them moment.

I dont like sms' that much. I would rather call. And I would rather talk in person. Things that I cant/dont want to say in person are more than 160 chars anyway.
I mainly use sms for:
a) trivial small talk.
b) comunicating with someone I dont want to spend that much time talking to
c) saving money.

With smses you can always give ur story the joke-twist if it didn't fall into the good side of the fence..I hope you understand what you mean?

Smses are just easy for people who are scared (or too intimidated) to break the ice are talk about their feelings. Once again, if you send an sms saying that you love someone and they reject you over sms, at least that person didn't face the other person. Smses are cool but you should be able to say or do the things you type in them irl!

sms ing is cool for quick communication

but if you got to say something to your woman, tell her to her face.

Also you can't read moods and expressions on sms

I could say in an sms

"shutup ho and go to sleep" in a joking tone
but actually get a response back saying "Just who the hell are you calling a ho???"

I have a warped sense of humour and usually say anything in front of anyone, usually a perverted comment. But I use SMS too cause it's quick and you dont get stuck in chatting, you can let a comment rip and then only get confronted a few minutes later. also if you do land in the shit you dont have to spend hours trying to change the other persons perception of what you actually meant as a joke but they took it the other way.

Us people in the Technological age dont have time to waste chatting hours on the phone, fighting on the phone. etc. etc. etc. we have work to do.

I reckon it's often easier to communicate via SMS simply because it's a technological convenience to us. Think about it this way: People might search for the TV's remote control for minutes on end, or bash the thing against the wall if it's not working, instead of just getting up and pressing a button the TV set itself. I even know some people who would drive to a little corner shop, when really the thing is only a block away. Or use an escalator or elevator to go up one floor, even though there is a perfectly good flight of stairs just to the left.
Why? Because it makes our lives easier. Human beings are naturally inclined to strive for that which makes our lives just a little bit simpler.

SMSs are no different. I mean, why expend all that energy actually talking to someone when you can just sit on your arse a type out a quick SMS? Heck, you can even be on the loo at the time and they'll never know. Best of all, you can spell like a 5-year old and no one really cares.
[/sarcasm]

On the flip side, communicating in writing with another person has a lot of advantages. First of all, you can think very carefully about what to say before replying (in terms of: lashing out against someone unnecessarily, or saying something you shouldn't have).
Secondly, often it is just that much easier to convey your thoughts in writing rather than verbally. Not because you're necessarily a coward, but because you can explain things clearly, without interruption, and without running the risk of using the wrong tone of voice (which can completely change the way the other person interprets your remark).
Third... Yes, sometimes you can say something in writing which you might have backed away from in a real conversation. But sometimes, these are things that NEED to be said. It also gives the other person a chance to think on it before acting. Unless of course they are utterly impulsive and they jump in the car with a baseball bat, fully intending to kill you dead until you die.

But still, my opinion is that one should evaluate each and every case individually, and then decide whether the situation can be handled casually and easily over text, or if it demands a personal confrontation.
That said, i think especially in cases such as Gitano's, it's better handled in person.

Very good point Yakman. Well said. I tend to agree with you.

sms equals evil. mms equals half evil. MXIT equals a quarter evil. look what evils technology brings!

I used Skype IM to get a lot of stuff sorted out with a guy. We were in different countries, so a face-to-face thing was impossible, and I don't think we would have been able to be as open as we were if we had to do it face to face.

Smsing to talk about feelings etc in a relationship is a fag's way of handling it. If you're not man enough to talk to your partner face-to-face, you're probably not man enough to be in that relationship to begin with.

Before we all get edgy, I repeat, to sms about RELATIONSHIP STUFF is the fag's way out.

Smsing your partner to remind them to buy smokes or something is completely acceptable.

Ok bye.

Well thats easy. because you can say what you want without being interupted the whole time.

I GOT DUMPED THIS MORNING VIA EMAIL

Bummer dude

Isn't that just like the ladies??? They would come to your house with a shotgun if you break up over some other form of comms... but it's fine if they do it!

Good luck

At least email is better than sms imo. You have more chars to say something with.... (not insensitive, just keeping on topic)

Sorry Badavis!!!
Thats harsh

Go to her house, stand outside naked, screaming how much you love her, and when she wasks wtf, just say you never got the email , she will be so embarassed.

Ouch, as much as being dumped sucks already, it is even worse when it isn't in person (I mean email,wtf?)...

All the best Badavis, see it as a new the beginning of something new.