I think I have had one of the worst months in history.

3 weeks ago my wife left me, I gave up my whole life for my wife moved my whole life to her and now find myself driving 150KM's a day to an empty house.

I still love and miss her soooo much, I had so many dreams and aspirations of us in building a life together. Her name is Monique Cairns she is still my wife (in my eyes and heart) as the divorce hasn't been finalised.

I work around 225 hours a month to make ends meet and provide her with as much as I could, last month I worked just short of 300 hours and have been clocking in very high hours in the hope that I could afford to take us on holiday next year. After she left me my life has been shattered, I am still heartbroken every second of every day. I love her endlessly she is my life.

They say that bad things come in three's after she left I lost my wallet and robbers attempted to break into my house. On friday night I had a guy run into my car when driving down Grayston drive on my 75KM journey home, he died instantly and now I have a case of culpible homiside being bought against me. Some days you can never win

I was just driving home..... got onto Grayston and was almost to the highway, driving along and heard a thud, thought to myself WTF??? was that. Checked my left mirror, checked my right mirror and it was gone, thought WTF???? checked my rear view mirror and saw a guy lying on the road.

Stopped and reversed, ran up to him turned him over and shouted "are you ok, Are you ok" he was dead, half of his face was gone, his one leg was broken off by the knee. Looked up and saw Cops at the next offramp ran up to the cops in shock...... the cop said thety know about it and have sent someone, the paramedics arrived I ran back to the paramedics. They said he was dead, I cant explain what you feel inside words cant explain. The accident investigation unit arrived and checked out the scene

The guy from the K-59 Accident investigation unit had a look and diagnosed that I wouldn't have seen the guy he was out of my field of vision, he ran into the side of my car ?????? I think what the hell was he thinking??? suicide???? surely if he wanted to cross the road he would have seen me judged if he could make it and then make a run for it? and I would have hit him dead on..... but running into the side of my car??? was he so drunk he couldn't perceive the distance?? did he commit suicide??? and now i'm left with a case of culpible homiside against me and a screwed up life???

It's times like this where you have to take one day at a time...... Hold in there....... I remember something from Batman Begins that keeps me going. Bruce's father says to him after he falls down that Well/ hole "Bruce why do we fall?" and the butler says "so that we can learn to pick ourselves up again"



So if your ever having a bad day/month think of me, hopefully you never have to go through what I have and hopefully this will make you think Things could be worse!!! I could be in Rob's shoes.

Damn dood. Thats horrible. Hope everything starts sorting itself out for you. Hopefully this will be a good christmas and the best year of your life will start in 2006.

Good luck

think of it this way dude.

Your life is never down, you are either up, or getting up.

Woah... hectic.

All the best

I think someone already ran the oke over... then you just rode over him...

did you see any blood on the side of your car?

did you see brain splutter on your car?

Sounds fishy and htf can cops there not rush to the scene?

Sheesh dude, all i can say is, good luck man.

No Blood anywhere on my car, there was blood squirts all over the place though

This post made me smile. Not because I enjoyed it, because its f##%ing unbelievable.

Good luck. I hope you have good friends...

so in otherwords... you did not hit the guy... he was already dead... you merely ran him over... period end of story... tell them to do forensic evidence and you shall see you'll be off within 2 days

LOL at the trout... CSI: Fishfly! It even rhymes

But there's probably sense in his logic.

It doesnt matter how it made u smile, ur sick in the head.


Sometimes u surprise me, but today I just see arrogance. Someone tells u something thats really serious and personal, and all u can do is joke about it?

W( at )RP( at )T}{ dude, stick to ur quote, its a good one. I wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you, one Vault9 member to another...

huh? you talking about me? if so here's what I have to say... from the way Rob told me about the incident did not sound right.








I did not take it as a joke when he mentioned about the accident but now I'm trying to figure out wheather it was indeed his fault or not... I mean for goodness sake the guy lost half his face...


the way he described the incident did not sound like he hit him at all, it's quiet possible that the guy was hit by another car and rob rode over him, which could explained the thud.

the reason why I posted this is bcos he was not on MSN at the time so I had to say something before I lose my chain of thought.

Let me then clarify my post.
You know those times when you everthing goes wrong, yet you still smile?
My smile was definitely not a smile of enjoyment or amusement.

And I think you take this (very serious) matter way TOO seriously.

W( at )RP( at )T}{, I hope you see see past the text...

Fukkit....not nice dude. There's not much i can say to make you feel better.

The LOL comment was not directed in any way at the situation tha Warpath finds himself in. It was in fact directed towards Fishfly. I am quite sure that when indeed Warpath reviews any comments made in this thread it will be clear to him.

Before making my post directed at Fishfly I made a comment about the unfortunate cirumstances of our beloved Warpath.

That comment is all that I can find in my obviously arrogant heart to say to man in a position i can barely imagine.

Besides... just because I put a smiley in a post doesn't mean I'm sitting here laughing my ass off???

I'm quite sure that if there's one man who would understand my post it is Warpath... best of luck to you man!

Hey Hey

Calm down guys I dont take things seriously and most of my buddies have made joking comments witout me taking offence.

On Sat we were playing golf and I was driving the cart and my one friend said dont worry about driving as long as there are no caddies on the course to drive over we'll be fine

A joke now and again actually lightens the dim situation.

I appreciate all comments in good or bad light, joking or serious.

It all helps in that there are people out there to talk about this issue with.

I dont need a shrink I just go to the VAULT

Thank You for understanding Rob...

Keep us informed about the case, mmkay?

You have a chance to speak with the wife yet?

the wife's a biach...

so like what happened with that hawt blond you were suppose to have a date with... come on show us all the pics

LOL Fish

You think i'm that quick off the mark???

DUDE!!! Rob you must have some of the worst luck I know of. Hope everything improves. I am here for you buddy. If you need anything, just give me a call! You got my number.

[quote name='Fishfly' date='Dec 13 2005, 09:45 AM' post='305089']
[quote]Sometimes u surprise me, but today I just see arrogance. Someone tells u something thats really serious and personal, and all u can do is joke about it?

W( at )RP( at )T}{ dude, stick to ur quote, its a good one. I wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you, one Vault9 member to another...[/quote] huh? you talking about me? if so here's what I have to say... from the way Rob told me about the incident did not sound right.

[quote]Rob: I must have the worst luck...[/quote]
[quote]me: why? I also had a shit weekend.[/quote]
[quote]rob: I killed someone[/quote]
[quote]me: WHAT? where? how? What happened??????[/quote]
[quote]Rob: I rode over a guy[/quote]
[quote]me: shit what happened?[/quote]

I did not take it as a joke when he mentioned about the accident but now I'm trying to figure out wheather it was indeed his fault or not... I mean for goodness sake the guy lost half his face...

[quote]I was just driving home..... got onto Grayston and was almost to the highway, driving along and heard a thud[/quote]
the way he described the incident did not sound like he hit him at all, it's quiet possible that the guy was hit by another car and rob rode over him, which could explained the thud.

[quote]so in otherwords... you did not hit the guy... he was already dead... you merely ran him over... period end of story... tell them to do forensic evidence and you shall see you'll be off within 2 days[/quote] the reason why I posted this is bcos he was not on MSN at the time so I had to say something before I lose my chain of thought.
[/quote]


[quote name='Carrots' date='Dec 13 2005, 09:54 AM' post='305100']
Let me then clarify my post.
You know those times when you everthing goes wrong, yet you still smile?
My smile was definitely not a smile of enjoyment or amusement.

And I think you take this (very serious) matter way TOO seriously.

W( at )RP( at )T}{, I hope you see see past the text...
[/quote]


[quote name='Heir_of_Isildur' date='Dec 13 2005, 11:00 AM' post='305142']
[quote=Badavis 13 Dec 2005, 07:57 AM]Sometimes u surprise me, but today I just see arrogance. Someone tells u something thats really serious and personal, and all u can do is joke about it?[/quote]

The LOL comment was not directed in any way at the situation tha Warpath finds himself in. It was in fact directed towards Fishfly. I am quite sure that when indeed Warpath reviews any comments made in this thread it will be clear to him.

Before making my post directed at Fishfly I made a comment about the unfortunate cirumstances of our beloved Warpath.

That comment is all that I can find in my obviously arrogant heart to say to man in a position i can barely imagine.

Besides... just because I put a smiley in a post doesn't mean I'm sitting here laughing my ass off???

I'm quite sure that if there's one man who would understand my post it is Warpath... best of luck to you man!
[/quote]

Point taken guys. I do get a bit touchy sometimes
I just empathise with Warpath for losing his wife then being involved in a car accident. I think thats one of the single hardest things anyone can go through. Anxiety & Depression are serious consequences. And you need all the support and friendship you can get. I hope everything works out!

not a problem badavis...

I prefer the screw the biach and not possible approach... no point in willowing about how sorry I am and how "I know how it feels" approach because each person will not feel the same and each person will go thru the stages... just as long you know there's someone to speak to then it's all good

Anyhow guys I saw the damages to Rob's car this weekend and... damn Pictures says a thousand words!!!

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