Ok guys, I gave up my whole life for my wife moved my whole life to her and now find myself driving 150KM's a day to an empty house.

I got home on Wednesday to find everything gone!!!!! no warning nothing

She tore my heart out and left me without one word of warning, I told her I love her soooo much and I wanted her back, she told me talk to her lawyer so i'm left with nothing but a broken heart and no explanation. When I was dying inside I wote this poem to her.

You are my ever guiding star
How could we have fallen so far
I think of days where I had made you happy
A smile beams across my face thinking of you in happier times
How our love used to shine

As soon as I smile, my smile is replaced with sadness, how could I have let you down
I love you more than life itself
I love you more than ever
How proud I am to have you as my wife
How happy you make my life

I sit here a broken man
Crying like the baby I am
I pray to God that you will stay
Pray to God he will take it all away
Please God give me another chance

I pushed everything too far
I ended up pushing my wife afar
I wish I could take it all back
Wish the noose would get slack
Around my heart......

I am just a broken soul
My body just ashes and coal
My wife is my life
And I gave her so much strife
Why did I hurt you so much
Why Why I dont know I cry........


People shouldn't read this, maybe you'll feel my pain.

Thanks for sharing.

Good luck, however things may turn out.

oh man
things will work out

Sorry to hear that man. That truly sucks.

soz man, just keep yer head up man!

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I dont know the details of what went on in your relationship But please please please accept the following advice - If you love her like you say you do - get in the car, get on a plane, get on a bicycle or even hitch a ride if you have to but go and Fight For her Untill.

I'm not saying go start a fight with her as I'm guessing that's been done... if you cared enough to share your life with this person GO GET HER!

Make her laugh, make her cry, get her diamonds, strip down naked, let her in on your deepest darkest secret Do whatever it takes...

I say this because I know what it's like being incredibly hurt by the most important person in my life (now I'm not saying this is what you did) but if she is or was then the Only thing she wants to see and hear is how much you love her... 'Shifting your partner aside' or acting all cool calm and collected without them when they're so hurt that nothing makes sense is the worst thing you can do

I say fight Untill but please don't stalk or act against an interdict mmkay?

Take care and good luck.

She been cheating on me for 3 months

I had no idea

Sorry to hear that.

I was going to ask if a someone else was a possibility because the circumstances mimic those of a situation that I know of where the same thing had happened.

Wife waited for husband to go to work one day and packed everything up. EVERYTHING. left him with 2 dogs but no dog food, kennels or bowls to feed them.

Turns out the only reason why she could not face him was because she had someone on the side for a while as well.

She left a letter for him to contact her lawyer taped to the wall. She even took his clothes.

I feel your pain.

If she has admitted to cheating on your you can sue her for infidelity and get back more than half your stuff.

If your wife had left you because of the way you treated her or because you flirted with a flooze at the office then I say put your tail between your legs and go after her

but the minute she has had a sexual affair your marriage becomes like mirror thats broken, you can glue the peices together but it will never ever be the same again and you'll never be able to hide the cracks.

Walk away man.......just walk away.If it's been going on for 3 months then it's just not worth it.

Damn. Thats horrible dood.

Hopefull youll find peace sooner or later.

Keep strong

don't hate me for this. But at the very least you now have closure. You know why she left. Now you don't have to wonder if it was something you did to her, or said to her. I am here for you my friend. Call me if you need anything.

I actually cannot imagine what is going through your head right now warpath. I'm very sorry to hear all this

Oh my I'm so sorry to hear that...

People can be so cruel and unfortunately I have to agree with Tech_Phil on this - there just is no excuse when the person that should be part of your 'safe place' in the world engages in such horrible behaviour.

The feeling of discovering you've been cheated on has to be one of the worst in the world - Especially when you had no idea. We find ourselves looking inward, trying to figure out why We weren't enough for them when the thing we had always been most sure of is our love and commitment to them

I wish that there was more to offer you than to tell you that you have to know and believe that you are worth more than that, you will be stronger because of this and that there somehow always is a greater lesson to be learnt.

Surround yourself with people who care about you if possible and be strong...

Ok, update

I dont have full proof but everything that happened when I look back is just WAY too circumstantial. I don't want to believe she was cheating on me so maybe it's making me a bit blind (what I can see is not that good) but at the same time I do want to believe if that makes any sence.

I have had less than 7 hours sleep in 7 days. I know I still love her so much, if I look at how she treated me I feel as though it is better that I never see her again. Although I think if she came running back to me I would take her back in a second no matter what anger or madness I was feeling.

I feel like I am now cursed, last night lost my wallet with everything in it. Dont know how i'm going to pay the maid and garden boy as I cant get access to cash and they wont take EFT as far as I know

Eish I dont want to ask her to help, she wont talk to me.

Maybe if I toilet paper her house it will get her attention?
Maybe if I run around the street neked it will get other chicks attention thus getting her attention.

Maybe she just left me because I have no sence of humor and my "what's brown and sticky" joke wore off.

Whoa dude, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Hope everything works out for the best.

Tell the joke to me, I dont know it yet!!

I dont think you can now make any sort of (accurate) deductions as to wether she cheated on you or not. I dont think you will be able to think 100% clearly about this issue for some time.

And you now want her back, wether she cheated on you or not. But the moment she takes you back, you will start to wonder about it.

You are in for a long journey.

Best of luck to you.

PS. Poetry

If she cheated on you, then ur better off without her. Who says it wont happen again? People like that go through misery all there lives coz they never know what it means to be truly faithful.In my opinion I think she doesnt deserve you. You should walk away, and given time you'll probably find she'll come begging at your feet. Thats how irony works you see, one minute u need her, the next minute u dont.

Dont let any woman get inside ur head.
Theres plenty of fish in the sea.

That coming from you is very much appreciated.


Looks like things are getting nasty. I had her father threaten me yesterday. Things are a bit fucked up. I have been so nice in spite of it all. Even this morning I phoned her to wish her happy birthday and I imported her a pressie from the states which I am still waiting to arrive so I said I would give it to her when it gets here.

I have been soooo nice, telling her I still love her etc. etc. etc. and she doesn't take any of my calls so I left her a message. She then sent me a SMS saying Fuck off and take your presents with you if you have anything to say phone my lawyer instead

WTF????? I mean SHIT!!!!! I think this woman is skitzo she just left with no real explanation!!! and now has just forgotten about me like I never existed??? after 2+ years!!! can it be that easy for her to do...... only explanation is someone else that helps it be that easy? no?

Carrots how can you not know that joke???

Whats brown and sticky?


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A STICK!!!!!

maybe someone been saying things to her to get at you?

Dude, you have balls of steel... by now I would have... ummmm... just wait 'til BlackRazor posts his thoughts, and that's what I would have done

Best of luck

I love jokes like that.

Your situations sounds very bad. It sounds to me more like she's thinking you cheated on her than that she cheated on you. (that sentence sounds crooked, but its the best I can do for now.)

The only way you will probably be able to talk to her is to ignore her for a while first.

Either way, I dont think you need a woman in your life who just one day ups and leaves without giving you any warning or any indication that anything is wrong.

How long have you known her, if I may ask?

2+ years prob just over 2 years or so.........

I think you may be right Carrots, she always said i'm so jealous etc. etc. etc. when i'm not and then acted insanely jealous and said I was jealous???

like I would talk to a mate at work by my car for 5 mins, if she called, I would say i'm just talking to Donovan about work, will be leaving soon etc. etc." she then would phone my desk at work to "check up on me" I mean WTF? and then when I get home I get the grill "who you cheating on me with!!!!" and i'm like WTF? I told you i'm talking to Donovan standing by my car. She would be like yea whatever, your cheating on me bla bla bla.

I've spoken to allot of people and they say usually that would mean that she is cheating on you and to make herself better she makes herself believe you are cheating on her, so that makes it easier for her to do?

Anyone that really trully knows me would know I would never have cheated on her, when the guys used to say sheesh that ones hot I didn't even bother looking.

I loved her with everything I had unconditionally!!!!!!!! I gave her everything I had!!!!!!!!!! I would have given her my last cent my last everything. On the same day she was packing up the house to go she accepted money from me WHILE SHE WAS PACKING HER STUFF!!!!!

It's stuffed up!

Dude, i have been down a similar road twice in the last 3 years. I got banged up pretty bad both times. Here are a few things that might help:

* So WTF if you are slightly jelous? Not over the top, but slightly. She's just looking for a kak excuse to shift the blame, since she is feeling pretty kak for being so horrible to you.
* Normally in phsyc terms, this is called projection. If she starts accusing you, she is probably doing it herself, or is feeling quilty for even contemplaing it.
* Forget to try and understand why, just keep on talking about it, roll with the punches, and it time the will subside a little bit. Just DO NO take it into your next relationship, because you will fuck it up if you do (i did).

Other than that, i cannot really say anything that will make you feel any better, but i least i will be here to listen (too).

warpath , its called projected guilt



I have experienced it 1st hand where I was blamed for cheating by my ex only to find out she had been cheating on me.

I understand where you are coming from by contoinuing to love and miss her, but I think you need to realise that you are missing your perceived idea of who you thought she was and not who she really is.

I hope you find peace.

beat her with a 12ft pole...

I think she told her parents about you cheating on her...

anyhow maybe you should take a drive to the parents house and get this cleared up... and who knows you'll prob find out that she's is indeed the one cheating on you and projecting it onto you and telling her entire family that you cheated on her etc...

Projection guilt it may well be, but not neccesarily so.

I myself am a bit more jealous than I should be, and not because of projection guilt.

If she took ALL the stuff out of the house, and she is the one cheating on you, then she must be a very bad person, and you would probably have realised it before now.

Either way. The main thing you need to think about now is whether you want her back in your life. Is she worth it even to try and sort things out? Even if she didnt cheat on you, the way she treats you now is not something you would want to have to go through again 10 years from now.
In the end only you can decide. None of your friends can give you accurate avice on this matter. Only you know how your relationship truly was.
One day you may have to make that choice (though probably not). And if you can decide now that you dont want her back, it would probably be better for you.

In the end, I think all will become clear. If she was cheating on you, she cant hide it forever. And one they in the future she will have calmed down enough to tell you what its all been about.
Also, that parent chat sounds like a good idea. That is if they didnt hate you already before all this.

Dont beat her with a 12ft pole, beat her with a lawyer and get your stuff back! I'm sure that 150Km a day you drive will count greatly in your favour.

Uhm, sorry, I dont know if you want every stranger on the forum (most who probably know nothing of your situation) to suddenly give you advice. But thats what men do when they hear problems. They think of "solutions".

Good luck on working through this all.

I must say I appreciate all the advise so dont worry Carrots.

At the end of the day I think love is blind, I took so much shit it's scary and loved her just the same.

Now that this has happened I have realised the person she actually is.

Damn, that sucks warpath. Fate has a way of repaying everyone, and she will (guaranteed), get what is coming to her. She might be happy as a pig in shit with some dood, and then he will dump her and she will feel what you are feeling now.

Be strong dood, it will become easier with time.