Are there any? And if so how do you establish Your boundaries?

Is it Honestly possible for male / female friendships to survive without anything more ever occuring?

In our age of technolgy it's become oh so easy to engage in 'virtual affairs', 'friendly flirting' etc. I personally believe in the term 'emotional cheating' and I have to agree that sometimes given the 'convenience' of all this technology it can be very hard to establish healthy boundaries. What might start of as friendly banter can soon progress to 'unwanted' conversations filled with sexual innuendos etc.

I've found that keeping to 'public ground' when I'm in a relationship ie not engaging in any 'private' conversations etc simplifies things. I prefer not 'allowing the oppertunity' so to speak cause I think planting seeds of doubt in a partners mind is silly and enough cause for unhealthy repercussions later on.

Are some of your lines blurred perhaps or do you have fool proof methods of handling this?

for me with toasted, it's pretty simple - dont do something to me that you don't want me to do to you.

works pretty well ':D she can have her friends and have whatever conversation she likes as long as it's not distasteful about me or if it's a private matter ':D that's pretty much it.

i do agree though, it is hard to draw a boundry line. and i find that things are said/done over chat/sms that would never be said/done face to face. so i also just remember that ':D

i fell into that trap to my regret. problem is you cannot really believe what a girl says to you online, no matter how sincere she sounds.

In our relationship its about being fair. I wont stop her seeing her friends and she cant stop me seeing mine. That said, we should and do spend alot of time together.

I wouldnt tolerate her speaking bad of my family and im sure she woont take that from me.

I agree with most of what's been said so far: toasted seems to have it fairly summed up by saying, "don't do something to me that you don't want me to do to you." If I had to sum it up myself I'd say a relationship should be based on communication first and foremost.


This is true, you have to balance quality time with your better half and time with your mates. I think as long as you don't bail out on either party to hang with the other one you'll be fine

Yea quality time out is important. Usually I have my "boys nite out" on a thurs nite and so my girlfriend has her "girls nite out". That way we still get to see our friends and that leaves the weekend for ourselves. Its not negotiable in my books (unless for a very good reason..). So saying that if my girlfriend ever said I cant go out without her anymore that for me would be a relationship boundry. I hate over possesive girls