I'm posting this as it seems that almost everyone I've been talking to recently is having some sort of relationship issue/crisis, and it's mostly the guys that are in trouble. It seems weird that as soon as summer begins so does the carnage: is it just me or does this season fry your brain a tad? Is there some strange hormone floating around in the air with all the pollen?

I voted Whipped and Loving it!!!! hehe

Going strong and next Friday will be another month/year down.

I feel it too...

I suppose Spring is a time for new beginnings... at least we still have our mates to haul us through the bad times...

Congrats Darryl, man that's gotta take some serious commitment

Bleh, and what sucks is that summer's only just beginning

Know how ya feel

Tis only the beginning... Sigh... Sounds like we need to get reaquainted with the local (Except on thursdays... I'll slit my wrists with a blunt teaspoon if I have to sit throught that again)



jk!

lol !! almal is orig !

i voted ... I'm in a solid relationship and am quite happy

Solid relationship and really fucking happy!

Am I the only one honest enough to admint I am whipped, and loving it? shame on you.

heh no special person in sight but im happy

im still young so im chilling.

In a solid relationship I think... Loving it

you think ?

I'm still scared you leave me for Mr Right

*ducks*

so fruitloop and someoneelse = ?

No... they are hehe or

Someoneelse = fruitloops' and vica versa...

man I am full of ...

Hehe...

We've been together for 9 months now - also met online

Woah, online relationship.

Do we get free tickets to the Jerry Springer show that you guys are gonna appear in?

Just kidding, good luck you two

hehehe ... its weird .. .we met online (joined the same forum on the same day) and then it turned out we live right around the corner from each other

he saw you at some shops and has been stalking you ever since....

I am so totally whipped.

(And loving it)

quite possible

lol

i also had a dream about him selling doob at a shop around the corner of my house the day before we met <cue twilight zone music>

I voted for the Sahara desert option. Fuckol on the horizon, fuckol currently. I met someone that i would have liked to date, but she is waaaaayyy too young for me (only 18).

val.... may i ask... how old are you ?

27, see the math problem?

how old is fishy's sister? 25?

not again

anyhow I'm whipped cream that'll never go off

anyhow val what's in the age difference not like she's illegal

wow fruitloop dreamnig about someoneelse selling doob... he must have planted that there

You sure he didn't sell you doob and you were high on it and thought you dreamt it all?

in a solid relationship.. happy.. but.. yeah.. there are issues.. guess you can't have it all...

about age differences..val... i'm 21.. bf is 29.... met a few days after i turned 19... he turned 27 the same year... and we have quite a solid relationship going for the past 2 and a half years.... its not about the age... its about both people's maturity levels and if thats compatible, amongst other things... then yeah... no reason not to give it a shot... unless you prefer to date within a specific age bracket

Valheru, do you not believe in the '7-year Rule'? It says that the youngest you're allowed to date is half your age plus 7, so you're in the clear

Love life is as it always has been ... dry as a desert.

Mine's been a rollercoaster ride all my life,up and down,up and down. Current one is going for 2yrs 8 months and starting to show cracks

Just hook up and see how it goes - u never know what can happen. As long as she is legal, and you are not going gray, maybe u should give it a try.

I am also in a barren wasteland at the moment. The chica who I was interested in, and was interested in me, has gone for someone else. I simply couldnt be there for her as much as I wanted to (I live in PTA, she is in JHB), so I told that she would prolly be better off with someone else, although we remain friends.

Why is it that when u r single, nobody really wants you, but when u are all hooked up, then u get all these offers? *sigh*

U know what also makes me sick? When u havent seen a friend in a while, and u talk again, and they ask you if u have someone special in your life, and u dont. Notice how they only tend to ask when they have someone special... *sigh x2*

Yeah I have noticed that as well. Weird indeed....


Work on it. Discuss what is causing the "cracks".

Oh please dont complain...my third leg hasn't seen any action in such a long time that its trying to crawl away from me...imagine waking up to find it slithering off with the car keys, luckily its still attached to my cobwebs so I can reel it in in time.

True, but i normally associate age with maturity levels, as they almost always appear to be. And this is one of those cases. You BF must be lucky that he has found you, albeit the age difference. See following reply as well:




That might be, and all jokes aside, i would rather have someone in my life that's been through all "that shit" than experience another relationship where the other person is still "finding herself". Unfortunately, they are very rare, and i seem to have the uncanny ability to dodge these. Or i am just plain fucking blind.

Option 1, gotta be

use some poly filla and fill it!

well

if you ask me age tends to become a problem cos usually ppl in the higher age group tend to be thinking about marriage/settling down where as teh younger ones want more action, etc. so yeah that could be a problem

thats why its always a good idea to be with someone the same age as you ... i have been on both sides .... ive been with a bf thats waaay older than me (and a tad boring) and am now with someone thats younger than me ... its not easy ... aspecially when your biological clock is ticking away ... *sigh*

( at )FruitLoop

Well, love doesn't really give one a choice in the matter - sorry you're stuck with a youngun like me

Whipped and lov'in it.

Possible hurdle for the future though... GF is in the medical profession (Occupational therapy) and also has a community service year next year.
She is going 3.5 hours drive away to a rural community near Potgietersrus - for a year

awww shame klesk88 but dun worry I'm sure she WON'T find someone else in such a remote place

Hey klesk - that's actually very lucky. I know couples who are in the same year in Med School, and one is sent to Pretoria and the other Cape Town. gg! 3.5 hours is nothing man, considering the alternatives.

I'm in a relationship and happy.

Since posting this poll I've started a new relationship, and it's going great

It's amazing what a positive outlook you have when your love-life picks up: I was looking at other couples recently and couldn't quite empathise with them and how happy they seemed to be (their fawning over one another was sickening, actually), but now I don't seem to mind

self pity
The last 3 girls I have approached in the last 11 months have turned me down, I'm hung up on a girl in East London and another in JHB, the one in EL was interested but distance made it a no-no and the one in jhb is pretty much /care
/self pity

I don't know really, my luck with the opposite sex is terrible, I have no clue what I do wrong, or maybe I just dont realise I'm rather ugly or something.

*yawn* I'm even bored by my own whining.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Never lose hope, I believe that there's someone for everyone. These things just take time, be patient and keep trying.

My lovelife is none existant. I had a couple of crappy first dates this year and I lost interest for a while. There's this girl I'm thinking of asking out, I'm just waiting for the right time to make my move.

Whipped and loving it boys, whipped and loving it...

Are you not also being /self pity? IMO self-confidence is crucial, you gotta have the balls to go for what you want. I've seen some real wankers with really great girls, and the only reason for this seems to be that they've got the right attitude. As Mithras says, keep trying and be patient.



This is disturbing...

Meh, there is a big gap between the two quotes...

I know, just thought it was ironic. I was going to make another comment about Ron Coleman approving of your 'big arm,' but I'll keep it to myself.

Oh come on, let's hear it

Me too... and it happened out of nowhere basically. I won't go into details about how it all started, but after just a couple of weeks, there is a definate connection that neither of us have felt before... it is weird yet awesome at the same time, but hey, with my luck, I couldn't have it all...


My gf is all the way in Cape Town, while I am stuck here in Pretoria... so that is like 12 hours minimum for me to drive down to see her... you are WAY better off then me, man.


Indeed. If I didn't follow my gut, and listended to my heart (which was afraid of the distance), I would have lost out.