I know a few ladies whom after finding out that they'd been cheated on - done some Nasty things.

Now im not talking about buying things on his credit card cause he owes you hundreds of pounds Nah ah I'm talking about arson, making Bad phone calls to his boss etc etc.

Have you ever? Or would you?

Getting even is the best thing ever.......no matter how it's done.As long as you get even. (no killing pets,or anything,that's a nono)

I have never, and would never do such a thing. It just means that you are no better than the other person. Things turn full circle, leave it and the other person will receive their just "reward".

I would never do something like that either, unless my family or friends were harmed in some way, but other than that I don't believe in revenge: it's just mindless self-indulgence really.


I don't believe in karma either, but I do think if you keep pissing people off long enough then eventually you'll piss the wrong person off and they'll come looking for your ass

i think the best way to get back on someone who has cheated on you.. is to first off.. deal and accept what he/she did and second forgive that person.. by doing this you let go of your anger and thus your connection to that person, because as long as your angry.. that person is connected to you.. added bonus is that person will feel so guilty that you being so kind and humble and forgiving and making him/her feel like a complete ass for ever even considering cheating on you, let alone doing it!

and third.. break off all contact with that person.. no talking, looking his/her way nothing... that person becomes a complete stranger to you....

for i think the best way to get someone back is to remove yourself from that person's life completely and by doing so not only will you get your own back but i think you also teach him/her a lesson... and hopefully they wont do it to anyone else again because they afraid of losing another like he/she lost you.

but yeah.. thats my take on revenge and stuff...

Yeah that is what I did to my ex who just so happened to cheat on me. She even said she wanted to still watch me play sport, and be my friend etc... I was calm about it didn't get angry or anything. I however did "erase" her from my life. some sound advice there Treshi.

I really believe in the whole "what goes around comes around" thing. I wouldn't do anything myself, but rather wait for his bad luck to come to him.

I would never allow myself to drop to their level. My first boyfriend EVER cheated on me 3 times, and i remember our last phone call, I just said "Goodbye", hung up and never said a word to him again.

He looked so guilty. It was a great feeling.

I fear where this is going... RUSH what you do now

IMHO it's best to dump them and forget about them completely... they become insignificant to your life when they decide to cheat on a person...

If a partner doesn't have enough brains to know a good thing when they get their hands on it - they're not good enough for you.

Move on people, Plenty of lovely willing and oh so able partners out there!

The days of pining away over one little lost soul are long gone

Its really easy to see cheating in black and white making it easier to make judgement, but its not always that simple.
People do make mistakes.
I am in no way condoning cheating, but people can honestly repent and is it always worth throwing something really good away for a stupid mistake? (i know 'mistake' isn't heavy enough for the pain it can inflict).

If you dont eclipse, how many mistakes do you then set yourself up for and thus allow?

I'm not saying you should allow these mistakes to happen. I'm just saying its not completely black and white. It does happen that a partner cheats and regrets in and never does it again, having realized what a stupid mistake it was

but in time they tend to forget about that pain and the whole vicious cycle starts all over again

I have to agree with Fishfly and Ilanza.

I guess the Real question is - could you ever Completely trust this person again?

I'd find it Incredibly hard if not impossible.

After my past experiences, if someone ever cheated on me, I would never forgive them, nor would I ever trust them again.

That's just one line that you don't cross in a relationship, and if they do, no matter how sorry they may say they are, if they truly loved you and cared about you, why would they want to break your heart?

Mean people.

Too true Toasted.

Agreed toasted.

Another vote for agreement. If trust and intimacy (non-sexual) was given to the other party in the relationship, and they just throw it back like it does not matter to them, it probably does not. In any case, they are more likely to be suspicious of "such activities" than people who are not inclined to do so.

me and my mom once spend a couple of thousand rand on my dads credit card after we found out he had a girlfriend ... it was fun at the time ... but it doesnt make the hurt go away ... and then you end up guilt ridden on top of everything else too ..

Scenerio: If you partner cheats on you with say their "best friend", he/she regrets it, you forgive him/her.

If you see that person would you:

1. Beat the crap outta that person when you see him/her?
2. Ignore him/her
3. Get pissed
4. Break up with your partner.

all of the above

Unfortunately Fishfly I'd have to say I'd break up with the person and ignore the other cheating party. Neither of them are worth your time...

I would chose option 1 least that'll get my anger out

All of them except option 3.

If you get pissed, you won't be able to stand long enough to beat the crap out of them. Plus the fact that you'll feel like a moron in the morning when you wake up back in bed with the guy.

hooo hooo hooooo.

oh man, revenge is sweet.