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Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more in a relationship than an attractive women who will cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every once in a while. What he really needs is your admiration.

He needs to communicate with you

A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!

He wants to be your hero

Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.

He strives to make you happy

The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.

For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he feels as though he is in charge – he is once again someone's knight in shining armour.

If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)

Sex makes him feel loved

Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you.

Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women

You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do better – he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you.

by Bonnie Yuill



[from www.handbag.com]

So men, is all this actually true? What do you/don't you agree with?
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I couldn't hhave said it better myself. All true for me
Wolf
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I couldn't hhave said it better myself. All true for me
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cyfermaster
I agree with them all EXCEPT this one:

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Sex makes him feel loved
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement.


I don't need sex from my wub.gif to feel loved, approved of or acknowledged. I get all this from the time I spend with her, and all the other things that she does for me, and most importantly when she says "I LOVE YOU" and "You are so special to me" etc...
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Yea but Cyfer..... you are "special"
cyfermaster
hehe. w00t1.gif

just because I am a genius is no reason to call me "special" tongue.gif
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Lol you got what I said but nice comeback anyway, Icecream man
THE SAiNT
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When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!

I've solved alot of problems this way. And no, this is not a 'vulnerable side' as stated above. It's actually a strong point because you get fresh ideas from someone whos oppinion matters to you. You can take action and problems actually gets solved.

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So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about.

This is true to some extent. Sometimes I get the feeling that she pretends that something is wrong just to grab my attention and then later I see that nothing is wrong. Don't nag so much. I worry about alot of things. If she is unhappy, I will notice, there is no need to start nagging...all in good time.

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For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy.

Respect plays a critical role in our relationship. We are honest even if it sometimes makes the other one angry but in the end its best. To make her happy is a very vague statement. This is something that is unique in every relationship. She likes being intimate and I go out my way to spend quality time with her. It makes her feel good about herself. It gives her a morale boost if you will. She makes me happy by saying she loves me...The feeling of being appreciated even when I had a very stressfull day at work.

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Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women.

Being romantic IS important. This does not nesseccarily have to lead to sex, now, but eventually it usually does.

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He needs you because you inspire him to do better

She is my reason for living. I set myself goals and with her in my life, I feel I can achieve these goals more easily.


Hopefully, all this makes sense.
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Gitano
Completely agree.
KL35K88
I'm backing Cyfer and Saint and the topic here fully. notworthy.gif
StanDarsh
Yep, seems quite accurate smile.gif
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