Seeing as there are so many topics in here lately, heres one from me

Why is it that some guys become total dipshits to their friends when they hook up with someone? Why is it that the change the person that they really are?
"OH NO I CANT DO THAT THE GF WOULDNT BE HAPPY"

pussywhipped!

Its a common occurence. The disease is called "Getintoherpantysitis"
Only cure is to seperate the male from female induce liquor and initiate a prostitute drip.

I guess im lucky. I haven't changed one bit since i met my GF. I still abuse my pc, still yawn scratch etc etc.

Im pretty much myself still around her.. the only difference is when i dont have something to do she gets the attention.

Older woman are so much less maintenance than 21 year olds *sigh*.

If she was petty about shit i'd show her the door.

No woman is running my life kthx.

It doesn't change who they are, merely their priorities. The fact that some guys remain like this long into a relationship disproves the theory that they are trying to 'get into her pants', since if they have been in the relationship for a while, chances are that they already have.

I also find that it is largely single male friends of the guy in question that feel this way, while his attached buddies don't. Seems to me that the single friends feel left out and ignored, while the attached friends have someone to keep themselves occupied with.

Ultimately, how someone chooses to spend their time is their own choice, and you cannot say or do anything to change their minds.

Kidnap your mate and take him on a night out...

Seriously though my GF and I tend to spend a lot of time with our friends. sometimes we will go out with her friends, and other times we will go out with my friends. We have all become friends as a result...

Sometimes I will go out with my mates while the goes out with her friends sometimes.

I understand what you are saying hunter...a mate of mine has just gone into a pretty serious relationship. Now normally this friend and myself, would go out together and just do things as mates. Go play golf. see a movie etc. Well that has all ceased. He hasn't changed as a person as such. But his time spending priorities have sure as hell changed. Oh well, I suppose I can't really blame him... A few of my other 'friends' (note use of inverted comma's) unfortunatly, have changed completely. But they have not only alienated me...they have done it to thier entire (guy) group of friends. Friends are meant to be more important than gf's. no?

Well i think it stems from guys insecurities, for most guys getting a gal is a big thing. Apart from your brad pitt player dude.

So yeah he's got a girl now but in the back of his mind he's afraid that hes going to lose her. So he does all in his power to keep her, that means changing himself to that stereotype guy that he thinks every girl wants. You know the guy who doesn't do stupid things with stupid friends, the guy who acts overly mature to show that hes capable of having a relationship, the guy who dont smoke, drink etc, the guy who spends most of his time with her. You know. And because he wants to be this guy he changes himself to what he thinks the girl wants. With that most of his jolling time with friends goes out the window. Once this happens you the friend becomes unimportant because he neeeds to keep the girl.

Well this is my viewpoint and it most probably will be shot down but its how i see it. Oh this applies alot to the average guy with the ubër hot babe.

Well said Fishzn. I think that what you said is very accurate for most relationships where this type of thing happens.

I guess my and I are lucky as we both believe that friends are very important, and this is why we each spend time with our friends.

When she dumps him he'll come slithering back all buddy-buddy.....

hey hunter, was this meant for me? cos I am teh same bastard

I havent changed.

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nice paint skillz dawg

i try :(

bwahaha yeah riight.

Im actually a better person when I have a gf

cause they realise they ain't gay like some of their closet case friends that question the need for "meeouw", in the end you need to get "meeouw" as it is a biological driving force that out weighs anything else.

= pussywhipped

So what you are syaing is you have to chnage who you are to get a girl/pussy?

Surely that should open yr eyes dude...

thats Mr. Pussywhipped to you

thats not what i'm saying, i maybe should of elaborated a bit more. when you get into a long relationship with a women.....going out and drinking yourself into a stooper doesn't appeal to you anymore and your friends can't understand that you have changed.

i'm not saying no contact but if that is the only form of communication your friends engage in (going out and drinking untill partial paralysis) then what options do you have

In my defence I deny all charges

yeah sometimes don't speak to a few of my friends but mainly due to the fact that I'm sooooo bloody busy it's irratating... *sigh if only there were a 36hour day

I find it quite irritating when a friend bails out of something planned well in advance at the last minute to accomodate his chick. Otherwise its a given that friends change their social priorities but I havent noticed changes in character.

Priorities is the right answer or otherwise some guys will do anything for pussy.
I would never leave my friends for a girl but I will spend less time with them as I personally think my gf would be more important then my friends but there is that healthy mix between the two and if your friends think you have changed then they maybe don't really know you?

You never lose friends but you can lose a gf in the blink of an eye. Thats why I think friends are far more important, its also why you can spend less time with them and not have to worry because they aren't gonna dump you.

LMAO, there's aquadog telling it just as he sees it.


My gf and I are similar to cyfer, we get together with my friends and her friends which have now become mutual friends. I still go out with my mates and similarly with her. We also have our own interests ie: I skate and she rides so we spend time apart and together. I understand though what hunter is asking, it always tends to happen but all changes when they break up

What if you start dating your best friend?
Problem solved.
Oh, provided your best friend is of the opposite sex (unless you are into that sort of thing)

Wait till all your friends get hooked up and married, and see how much they care about leaving you as the lone ranger. If you find the right girl, she could very well become your wife, and she'll stand by you through a lot more shit than your friends will.

I want a g/f. I want to change.


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Yours is more a case of need Driver

Why is it that some guys become total dipshits to their friends when they hook up with someone?

I am experiencing the same thing now with one of my "buddy's"
For years my group of guys have been a loud bunch and we have alot of fun together.

My one mate has been single since I met him like 4 years ago and now he finally gets a chick and he acts all serious and full of shit when ever he is around us. He's like a totally different person around her.

Stuff that he used to participate in is now "above" him.
Man it annoys the shit out of me.

That men will change who they are just for a pair of tits and a ******
I for one refuse to change who I am for ANYONE! All my friends and their gf's know that I am who I am and no one is gonna change me - except me.

I admit that when my fiance and I were together certain things were different. But now that we are apart I learn't that if you change for some one, when they leave you are the one who suffers not them. I didn't know who I was with out her because I had changed alot of who I was for her.

From now on though, a chicky will have to accept me for me. If she wont then she knows which way the door is! Plain and simple with me.
I don't mince my words about it either.

And I know that when little miss butterfly grows her wings and buggers off for the next guy he's gonna come back to us.

I guess it just annoys me coz I know what he is really like.

Sometimes guys can change for the better though thanks to the influence of a girlfriend. I personally feel much better and an overall more balanced person thanks to my girlfriend and I have 'changed' but not till that extend that people don't know who I am anymore. So the coin has two sides I guess...

Friends are way more important. But you cant be romantic with your friends and you cant do the things, with your friends, that 2 people in love, can do. But putting friends aside for a relationship is not okay.

Mostly, guys want to impress the new girl in their lives and spend as much time with them because they have something new in their life.

But, a last note. Stick with your friends, they will always be there.

StanDarsh

then again the "right" woman will also understand that you are the way you are and wont mind you spending time with your mates

OH WHEN I MET U U WERE ALWAYS LIKE THIS BUT I DONT LIKE IT SO LET ME CHANGE U

She will that hunter.

Erm...

So what everyone is discussing is whether it's right or wrong for a male to become 'joined at the hip' with his partner as soon as he enters a relationship?

Cause let me tell you now if I had to spend All my time with Rush I'd have been a while ago... Sure we love spending time together but for instance this weekend he's gone away on a soccer tour with the little man and I feel he 'deserves' that And I get to go walking round and round Eastgate without having to face the "AWW Lets go see that movie babe" round every turn

I can SHOP and only SHOP

I just don't see the problem, as soon as Anyone enters a relationship Some of their priorities should change else (and I'm sorry to have to share) you simply aren't ready or mature enough to be starting any serious relationship anyway...

If you are with someone either male or female who CONSTANTLY craves ALL your attention you need to start running for the hills my boy cause I bet Everyone else in your life is hears the STALKER alert loud and clear

We weren't made to live in solitute with our partners, you need male and female friends whom you can relate to and confide in...

The World needs lightening up and we should all try a bit of 'happy go lucky sometimes' (and no that's not a drug)

Tried that and thought it would be the perfect relationship. But it only lasted a few months. When you have a fight then who do you confide in? You can't confide in your best friend cos they are the problem.

But anyway, back to the main topic. When my fiance and I first started dating, he used to come every weekend to come and see me. I didn't force him to visit, he did it of his own will. So yes he did see his friends less often, but it was his choice. When he wanted to see his friends I'd go with him and he'd come with me when I saw my friends. Its worked out well.

Men obviously change their personalities because they want to impress their gf, or they don't want to get a bad image. But I found that eventually those things start coming out sooner or later. E.g. the burping and farting used to be silent and unobtrusive but now it happens loudly all the time.

I believe your partner and friends are equally important. Never just ditch your friends, its hard to build up those types of friendships. But also spend time with your partner might be 'the one'

I dont actually think its got anything to do with pushing your friends aside or not spending so much time with your friends.

I think its got to do with LOVE. People basically want to love, they want to give love and they want to get love in return. Love is what makes the world a better place.