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 Jun 21 2005, 11:12 PM
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 Im all in  Group: V9 Mod Posts: 3,118 Joined: 22-April 02 From: St. Louis MO Member No.: 68 Sex: Male  |
Seeing as there are so many topics in here lately, heres one from me Why is it that some guys become total dipshits to their friends when they hook up with someone? Why is it that the change the person that they really are? "OH NO I CANT DO THAT THE GF WOULDNT BE HAPPY"  --------------------  |
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Jun 21 2005, 11:15 PM
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 Senior Member  Group: Senior Posts: 448 Joined: 25-April 03 From: JHB Member No.: 1,093 Sex: Male |
pussywhipped!
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Jun 21 2005, 11:31 PM
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 He who owns no white clothes  Group: Elite Posts: 1,304 Joined: 29-July 03 From: Shack 188 in Noreasto (North Eastern Township) Member No.: 1,440 Sex: Male |
Its a common occurence. The disease is called "Getintoherpantysitis"
Only cure is to seperate the male from female induce liquor and initiate a prostitute drip. -------------------- I am NOT a racist. I hate all of you equally depending on the color of your brain.
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Jun 21 2005, 11:55 PM
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 Evil Inside  Group: Dealers Posts: 326 Joined: 21-July 03 From: Midrand Member No.: 1,405 Sex: Male |
I guess im lucky. I haven't changed one bit since i met my GF. I still abuse my pc, still yawn scratch etc etc.
Im pretty much myself still around her.. the only difference is when i dont have something to do she gets the attention. Older woman are so much less maintenance than 21 year olds *sigh*. If she was petty about shit i'd show her the door. No woman is running my life kthx. --------------------  ComputeIT cc Pm me for all your pc requirements, we can ship anywhere in SA. |
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Jun 21 2005, 11:56 PM
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 d-_-b Group: Elite Posts: 478 Joined: 23-October 03 From: Cape Town, SA Member No.: 2,090 Sex: Male |
It doesn't change who they are, merely their priorities. The fact that some guys remain like this long into a relationship disproves the theory that they are trying to 'get into her pants', since if they have been in the relationship for a while, chances are that they already have.
I also find that it is largely single male friends of the guy in question that feel this way, while his attached buddies don't. Seems to me that the single friends feel left out and ignored, while the attached friends have someone to keep themselves occupied with. Ultimately, how someone chooses to spend their time is their own choice, and you cannot say or do anything to change their minds. -------------------- A hand in the bird is worth two on the bush.
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Jun 22 2005, 12:13 PM
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 Chairman of the n00b's  Group: Administration Posts: 9,934 Joined: 27-May 04 From: JHB Member No.: 3,019 Sex: Male |
Kidnap your mate and take him on a night out...
 Seriously though my GF and I tend to spend a lot of time with our friends. sometimes we will go out with her friends, and other times we will go out with my friends. We have all become friends as a result... Sometimes I will go out with my mates while the  goes out with her friends sometimes.
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Jun 22 2005, 12:21 PM
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The Revolution Group: Senior Posts: 185 Joined: 18-July 04 From: Howick KZN Member No.: 3,364 Sex: Male |
I understand what you are saying hunter...a mate of mine has just gone into a pretty serious relationship. Now normally this friend and myself, would go out together and just do things as mates. Go play golf. see a movie etc. Well that has all ceased. He hasn't changed as a person as such. But his time spending priorities have sure as hell changed. Oh well, I suppose I can't really blame him...
 A few of my other 'friends' (note use of inverted comma's) unfortunatly, have changed completely. But they have not only alienated me...they have done it to thier entire (guy) group of friends. Friends are meant to be more important than gf's. no?
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Jun 22 2005, 01:09 PM
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 Africa ain't only the place that gave us Bob Marley Group: Senior Posts: 304 Joined: 8-June 03 From: Durban Member No.: 1,270 Sex: Male |
Well i think it stems from guys insecurities, for most guys getting a gal is a big thing. Apart from your brad pitt player dude.
So yeah he's got a girl now but in the back of his mind he's afraid that hes going to lose her. So he does all in his power to keep her, that means changing himself to that stereotype guy that he thinks every girl wants. You know the guy who doesn't do stupid things with stupid friends, the guy who acts overly mature to show that hes capable of having a relationship, the guy who dont smoke, drink etc, the guy who spends most of his time with her. You know. And because he wants to be this guy he changes himself to what he thinks the girl wants. With that most of his jolling time with friends goes out the window. Once this happens you the friend becomes unimportant because he neeeds to keep the girl. Well this is my viewpoint and it most probably will be shot down but its how i see it. Oh this applies alot to the average guy with the ubėr hot babe. -------------------- For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world and lose his soul... |
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Jun 22 2005, 01:15 PM
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Chairman of the n00b's Group: Administration Posts: 9,934 Joined: 27-May 04 From: JHB Member No.: 3,019 Sex: Male |
Well said Fishzn. I think that what you said is very accurate for most relationships where this type of thing happens.
I guess my and I are lucky as we both believe that friends are very important, and this is why we each spend time with our friends.
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Jun 22 2005, 01:31 PM
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 Captain Poon Group: Senior Posts: 409 Joined: 11-November 03 From: Pretoria Member No.: 2,199 Sex: Male |
QUOTE(hunter @ Jun 22 2005, 08:12 AM) Seeing as there are so many topics in here lately, heres one from me Why is it that some guys become total dipshits to their friends when they hook up with someone? Why is it that the change the person that they really are? "OH NO I CANT DO THAT THE GF WOULDNT BE HAPPY"  When she dumps him he'll come slithering back all buddy-buddy..... -------------------- If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, riddle them with bullets
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Jun 22 2005, 06:56 PM
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 Aces full of Kings Group: Administration Posts: 5,815 Joined: 4-June 02 From: Johannesburg South Africa Member No.: 1 Sex: Male |
hey hunter, was this meant for me? cos I am teh same bastard
 I havent changed. -------------------- |
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Jun 22 2005, 11:13 PM
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 GO NINJA GO NINJA GO! Group: Elite Posts: 1,535 Joined: 11-November 02 From: Randburg, South Africa Member No.: 720 Sex: Male |
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Jun 22 2005, 11:40 PM
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Im all in Group: V9 Mod Posts: 3,118 Joined: 22-April 02 From: St. Louis MO Member No.: 68 Sex: Male |
nice paint skillz dawg
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Jun 23 2005, 12:06 AM
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GO NINJA GO NINJA GO! Group: Elite Posts: 1,535 Joined: 11-November 02 From: Randburg, South Africa Member No.: 720 Sex: Male |
i try :(
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Jun 23 2005, 01:58 AM
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 proGFXGamer Group: Senior Posts: 354 Joined: 1-September 03 From: Durban Member No.: 1,617 Sex: Male |
QUOTE(CooKieMonster @ Jun 22 2005, 08:55 AM) I guess im lucky. I haven't changed one bit since i met my GF. I still abuse my pc, still yawn scratch etc etc. Im pretty much myself still around her.. the only difference is when i dont have something to do she gets the attention. Older woman are so much less maintenance than 21 year olds *sigh*. If she was petty about shit i'd show her the door. No woman is running my life kthx. bwahaha yeah riight. Im actually a better person when I have a gf 
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Jun 23 2005, 04:40 AM
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Regular Member Group: Senior Posts: 35 Joined: 7-September 04 Member No.: 3,675 |
QUOTE Why is it that some guys become total dipshits to their friends when they hook up with someone? Why is it that the change the person that they really are? cause they realise they ain't gay like some of their closet case friends that question the need for "meeouw", in the end you need to get "meeouw" as it is a biological driving force that out weighs anything else. -------------------- There is no "patch" for stupidity.
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Jun 23 2005, 04:54 AM
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 I suck... @ Sucking Group: Elite Posts: 1,422 Joined: 3-June 03 From: Midrand Member No.: 1,247 Sex: Male |
QUOTE cause they realise they ain't gay like some of their closet case friends that question the need for "meeouw", in the end you need to get "meeouw" as it is a biological driving force that out weighs anything else = pussywhipped --------------------  "It is nobler to declare oneself wrong than to insist on being right - especially when one is right." - Friedrich Nietzsche |
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Jun 23 2005, 05:08 AM
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Im all in Group: V9 Mod Posts: 3,118 Joined: 22-April 02 From: St. Louis MO Member No.: 68 Sex: Male |
So what you are syaing is you have to chnage who you are to get a girl/pussy?
Surely that should open yr eyes dude... |
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Jun 23 2005, 05:10 AM
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Regular Member Group: Senior Posts: 35 Joined: 7-September 04 Member No.: 3,675 |
thats Mr. Pussywhipped to you
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Jun 23 2005, 05:19 AM
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Regular Member Group: Senior Posts: 35 Joined: 7-September 04 Member No.: 3,675 |
QUOTE(hunter @ Jun 23 2005, 02:08 PM) So what you are syaing is you have to chnage who you are to get a girl/pussy? Surely that should open yr eyes dude... thats not what i'm saying, i maybe should of elaborated a bit more. when you get into a long relationship with a women.....going out and drinking yourself into a stooper doesn't appeal to you anymore and your friends can't understand that you have changed. i'm not saying no contact but if that is the only form of communication your friends engage in (going out and drinking untill partial paralysis) then what options do you have |
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