Is it worth risking your job for a relationship with a colleage?


i recently started a job at a betting company, its the job id been hoping to get and i really enjoy it.
however, there is a girl who also started in the same 'batch' as me and we both attended the same training group...
we had a laugh and that during training but she seems to be giving mixed signals, (either that or i suck at reading girls )

she's tearing me apart, i really like her and id love to date her but i dont want to jepordise my job.
Im sure whatever her answer, it would be akward working with her too, for many reasons which im sure you all are familiar with...
Ie, Spending too much time together, rumors in the office, if there's an uneasy breakup work will be hell and probly most importantly, her knowing how much i get paid
Should i keep my head down, focus and enjoy the job i'd waited for, or should i risk it, date her and forget the consequences?

Thanks in advance for any advice
Screw those who come to jeer at my misfortune

It depends what you value more. A girlfriend/lover or your job. I would not advise (at least this early in a relationship) working together as it will cause untold hell between you two.

Basically you need to decide which you think is more important, a good job or a good girlfriend and go with which one you think is more important...

I personally would avoid the dating a work collegue especially if you are in the same department and have to interact with each other all the time... well UNLESS of course you can keep WORK as WORK and personal things aside...

I say

be her friend,

if its meant to be, it will be, but its important that you try see if it will work out with the 2 of you being friends before anything else.

I was undecided until I read Paul's post, Id go with his advice

Good luck dude

you can tell someone has had a few work relationships

Did Paul try date you CrEaTi0n???

i shouldnt speak out of the office

don't do it buddy! I did it and it suck's........things were great for the first couple of weeks and then things went sour. Luckily I moved offices but I would never do again. (unless she was really hot!.......jk)

LOL.

I think this can work. It depends on if you rely on each other to do your jobs. If you don't it is almost as though you don't work together. That way you don't expect the other person to do things quicker for you, or before other people because you are an item.

Just my thoughts.

I had the misfortune of going through a relationship with someone at work.
There is nothing wrong with taking a chance, but if it turns bad the impact on your work is very big.
I changed jobs. Luckily I was better off.
There are alot of super hot girls where I work, but I will never make that mistake again.
Don't jeoperdise your future !

Adieu

Basically, every situation is different. If you want to have a casual sex encounter with a temp co-worker that will not stay in the company for many years to come, then go for it. However, if you want to start dating permanent staff, then I would rethink your situation.
What happens if you break up? It will make things awkward in the future, it will also put stress on other co-workers, indirectly.


This post has been edited by Paul: May 23 2007, 04:32 AM

office relationships are only weird and what not when you break up. no relationship sucks in the beginning -no matter the situation (that naive "love conquers all" crap steps in and the two of you feel invincible) So in the beginning it wuill be great to have her around all the time in a work environment, and if you need space you can go work
but if you braek up... then it gets weird for the two of you and that part sucks.
I wouldnt stress so much about the office gossip... they will find anything to skinner about?! and most of the time they don't actually care if its true or not.
but if you're trying to choose between the girl and the job... my advice is: people are fickle and you might lose your job, or worse lose interest if things go sour. this is a job you like, romance politics could ruin you love for your job, by ruining your work environment.
if it were me?
I'd wait it out... like paul said... If its meant to be.
but make yourself happy first, its rare for people to be in jobs they enjoy.
-just a thought?

Dear, I am female and I had the same situation...
We were living together during 4 weeks, very happy time in my life, but finally I understood that it's not the person with whom I am ready to live the whole my life and... we broke up... but today I am sitting near him and thinking... about sex... so...it's hard